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Stalked since I was 12

March 22, 2010 By Contributor

When I was twelve, a man who lived down the street started following me to and from school, when I lived in Dawson Creek, BC. He would tell me that he missed ‘seeing my pretty face’ and that he wanted me to ‘come and visit him sometime.’ When I refused, he started stalking me.

I told my mom about it, and she told me it was my own fault for not being street smart enough. So I just tried my best to avoid him until I was old enough to move to a different city. In the six years that he harassed and stalked me, I suffered panic attacks and constant fear. My grades suffered, and I was eventually expelled from school.

I remember running from him one day after school, how he chased me through the trees beside the school. I was lucky that I was a fast runner. I was terrified, but I was also so ashamed. I felt like it was my fault, that if I was somehow smarter, or less pretty, this wouldn’t be happening to me. It wasn’t until later that I realized that the only reason he did this to me was because I was a girl.

– anonymous

Location: Dawson Creek, BC, Canada

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Weekly Round Up – July 19

July 19, 2009 By HKearl

Stories:

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  • On this blog, an American woman living in Tunisia talks about the harassment she faces, a woman shares a harassment experience she had in Denver, CO, and another woman talks about a creepy neighbor who keeps her and her daughters afraid to leave their house in TX.
  • On Holla Back NYC a woman took a photo of a man masturbating on the beach while staring at an unsuspecting woman
  • On Holla Back DC! a woman talks about being told to smile, another shares a story about harassment she received at a grocery store, a third discussed being grabbed on the sidewalk by a man, and lastly a fourth shares how she was called cutie by men on the street.

In the News:

  • The Chicago Sun Times had a front page (online) story about how women activists in Chicago prompted changes to the sexual harassment policies of the Chicago Transit Authority!
  • A group of women in Sudan were arrested and several were flogged for the crime of wearing pants in public.
  • An article in the Miami Herald about changing attitudes in policies in Saudi Arabia highlights the attitude that if women were allowed to drive, they would experience more sexual harassment in public, so it’s better not to let them drive.

Announcements:

  • In partnership with local activist, including the facilitators of Holla Back DC!, I am helping to organize a free, one-day summit on street harassment, to be held in October 2009 in Washington, DC. We are holding a photography contest right now for photographers who capture or depict street harassment, particularly in the DC area. Selected winners will have the chance to show/sell their work at a reception the evening before the summit.
  • RightRides in NYC recently has expanded their services of a free ride home from Saturday nights to include Friday nights too! They offer this service from 11:59 p.m. – 3 a.m. in 45 neighborhoods across four boroughs. To call for a ride, the dispatch number is (718) 964-7781 OR (888)215-SAFE (7233).

Street Harassment Resource of the Week:

Gardner, Carol Brooks. Passing By: Gender and Public Harassment (Berkeley, CA: University of California Press, 1995).

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Creepy neighbor

July 18, 2009 By Contributor

I am from Converse, Texas Bexar County, and I live on a nice cul-de-sac in a decent subdivision, I thought until recently.

I have a neighbor who intentionally stares at me and my daughters (ages 17 & 13). My youngest can’t walk to the mailbox and back without him looking at her. When she walks from the bus stop he watches her. My husband is stationed elsewhere and it has gotten bad. We have an above ground pool that we had to move because he watches them. He recently put up solar screens on his windows. It is really bad. We went to leave one night and he and his friend watched us leave. It is really getting uncomfortable. I can’t do anything until he “attempts” something, and by then it could be too late. We can’t move right now. It is frustrating and at times scary.

My backyard in most areas sits above my privacy fence, to give you an idea of what I am about to talk about. I have a homeowners association and I am waiting to get into trouble because, out of fear, I rushed and had a pool deck with privacy fencing to go around it so he could no longer see my daughters. He would go to a street over where his friend lives and watch us there also. It has gotten too much. My daughters don’t want to go outside because of this guy and his friends.

-anonymous

Location: Converse, Texas Bexar County

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