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I was walking through a bar on the boardwalk.

I was going through a less crowded area when one of the two stocky guys standing against the wall yelled out to “sexy”. I continued to keep my eyes adverted and my head down.

A split second later when I had passed by, he yelled in a more aggressive tone that “I was a bitch for not saying thank you.”

I mumbled “Thank you” as I picked up my pace and was extremely shaken.

For a few years after I would respond immediately with “thank you” to any unsolicited cat call.

It wasn’t until a couple of years later that I realized I wasn’t the one who did something wrong! There’s a polite way to compliment someone and it’s rude to cat call. I don’t have to tolerate it and I surely do not need to thank anyone for that.

We must teach respect. Don’t treat people in a way that you wouldn’t want your mother, father, sister, brother, daughter, or son to be treated.

~ Anonymous

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Via Deccan Herald:

“Frustrated after the failure of its repeated attempts to tackle the growing menace of eve teasing in Uttar Pradesh’s Meerut town, the police have come up with a special plan to rein in roadside majnus.

The police have decided to photograph ‘diehard majnus’ and paste their pictures at busy thoroughfares and public places across the town. Police said people can then identify their faces easily.

“Public display of their pictures will also create a guilty feeling among the majnus,” said a police officer.
The police also plan to ascertain the criminal history of eve teasers across Meerut through Operation Majnu.

“A history sheet of such persons will be opened at police stations and the Gangsters Act will also be slapped on them,” said the officer.

He said the town has been witnessing a growing menace of roadside eve teasers, who had made life miserable for girls.

“These majnus roam around girls’ schools and colleges and markets frequented by women. At times they even make indecent gestures towards women,” the official added.”