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The ugly side of masculinity

October 16, 2009 By HKearl

One week ago in New York  City two men approached Jack Price, an openly-gay man, on College Point Blvd while Price was walking home from a deli. The men allegedly called Price anti-gay slurs and beat him. Price escaped, called 911, and is still in the hospital recovering from a fractured jaw and ribs, the collapse of both of his lungs and a lacerated spleen. What the hell!  As of two days ago, both suspected men have been arrested.

At a press conference a few days ago, Council speaker Christine Quinn said,

“news of the attack ‘smacked particularly sharply’ after returning from the National Equality March on Washington the day before, energized and optimistic about equality for the LGBT community.

‘You grow tired of having to do these press conferences, of having to stand up and decry a hate crime against someone because they are perceived to be gay or because of their race or their religion,’ Quinn said.

She continued, this ‘violent, outrageous and unacceptable hate crime’ and others like it ‘rip at the fabric of our decent society’ and will be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.”

There have been a string of violent hate crimes and murders  against gay men and transgender women in New York, and the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs reports that hate crimes in the U.S. are at the highest point in a decade.

If you’re in New York, tomorrow, come out for an event organized in response to the Price beating and to rally against hate crimes in general. Saturday, October 17, at 2 p.m. there will be a march on College Park Blvd, starting at 20th Ave, and a rally in the park on 14th Ave, organized by a coalition of LGBQ groups.

Hate crimes against members of the LGBQTI community are often related to gender-based street harassment (and overlap when female members of the LGBQTI community are targeted for both their sex and sexual orientation). In particular, some of the underlying reasons both forms of harassment occur are the same.

For example, men (I can’t recall the last time I heard about a violent hate crime committed by a woman) who commit the crimes may be doing so to try to prove their masculinity (when it’s read as aggression and violence) or to perform masculinity for other men. The latter is especially true when men harass and assault in pairs or groups, as was the case when the two men beat Price.

Another example why men may engage in hate crimes is to punish members of the LGBQTI community for not acting according to the gender the perpetrator thinks they should and therefore for threatening the perpetrator’s narrow definitions of masculinity and femininity.

Similarly, perpetrators of some forms of gender-based street harassment engage in their actions to punish women for not acting the way the men think they should act given narrow definitions of masculinity/femininity (read: superior/inferior). Maybe the woman is alone in public instead of at home (so the men think it’s okay to comment and touch her; “if she didn’t want that to happen she should stay at home”), or maybe she doesn’t meet the idealized beauty standards (making it a-okay to call someone a fat cow for not being skinny – not), or maybe she dared to wear flattering clothing (so the men think, “I’ll show that slut who’s in charge”).

So to cut down on both hate crimes and gender-based street harassment and assault, we need to work on changing the definition of masculinity and pass laws and engage in activism that deters and punishes men who hurt others in an attempt to prove their own masculinity or in an attempt to punish the victim/s for not adhering to strict “traditional” gender norms. Thoughts?

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Filed Under: News stories Tagged With: anti-gay, beating, hate crime, jack price, masculinity, sexual harassment, street harassment

Check Out Holla Back Savannah!

October 14, 2009 By HKearl

Holla Back Savannah just launched this month to fight and document street harassment in the Savannah, Georgia, area and they’re looking for submissions.  If you live in that area, send your street harassment stories and pictures of perps their way (hollabacksavannah@gmail.com).

Welcome, Holla Back Savannah to the online anti-street harassment community! 🙂

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Filed Under: hollaback, street harassment Tagged With: hollaback savannah, savannah georgia, sexual harassment, street harassment

Searching for videos of girls being groped

October 14, 2009 By HKearl

I am deeply disturbed by some of the referring terms my blog statistics say people are using when they happen upon my blog. Some recent ones include:

  • “interactive breast grope game”
  • “any girls who want to f*ck a stranger?”
  • “pictures of how to wolf whistle”

Literally every day several people come to my blog via search terms that are some variation of “dirty school girl” and “groping girls video” because of posts like these ones which talk about men groping women in public and this story about a man asking to take a picture of a young woman in a “dirty schoolgirl outfit”. I take it they are disappointed when they get here since I speak out against these problems.

I try to block out how many predators there are who are making money off child porn and misogynistic, racist, homophobic, size-ist adult porn and how many more people are spending their time and money consuming it. But each time I check my stats I’m reminded that they’re out there.

Not that the messed up predators are probably still reading this post (which some of them will find when I tag it with “groping” and “dirty school girl outfit”), but I still want to say to them:

Looking at pictures and videos of girls being groped and sexualized in school outfits is disgusting and you are a predator who clearly has no respect for girls or women. Shame on you for contributing to a culture that thinks it’s okay to make money from girls’/women’s humiliation and a culture that says it’s entertainment when boys/men assault girls/women and harass them at home, school, work, and on the street.

That is all.

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Filed Under: street harassment Tagged With: child pornography, dirty school girl outfit, groping, groping video, porn, pornography, sexual assault, sexual harassment, shame on child predators, street harassment

Harassment at SoHo

October 13, 2009 By Contributor

I’m a street artist. I went to my spot to show my art around 8 am last Sunday 10-11-09 at West Broadway and Spring St in SOHO.

This man was waiting for me, and he comes and sits next to my spot and starts to kick my handtrack, and i say don’t touch my stuff, and he says, “YOU DONT UNDERSTAIND I DONT WANT YOU HERE!!! PROSTITUTE, PUTA, UGLY, OLDER, LOSER YOU ARE 40 YEARS OLD AND COME HERE TO SELL YOUR CHEAP ART, I WANTS TO DELETE YOUR TEETH, I’M NOT PLAYING!!! AND WE WILL SEE WHO IS MORE STRONG!!!”

I asked what is his problem and he says, “I JUST DONT LIKE YOU!!!”

And I say, “The world has plenty of things that we like and we dont like and you need to learn to live with that.”

After that he pushed me and punched on my face and ran. I said to stop and people heard and so he ran. I called the police and they come. People talked to the police about what they saw, but nobody saw when he was punched me. I dont have marks or blood.

So he was back 2 hours later to his spot like nothing had happened, and many people called the police, including me, and 5 cars come. Nobody asked him for ID, they just removed him to the next block….he cam back agan to his spot to intimidate me and said “i will be here next weekend”….

I don’t know what i can do, just leave there? I don’t go out because he is around, or he knows I’m alone, maybe he will wait for me again? i dont know…

– anonymous

Location: New York City

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Filed Under: Stories, street harassment Tagged With: artist, assault, cops, New York City, sexual harassment, SoHo, street harassment

A frightful walk in Salzburg

October 12, 2009 By Contributor

Via Encyclopedia Britannica
Via Encyclopedia Britannica

Several years ago, when I was a student in Salzburg, Austria, I was on a long walk at night with a female friend. We walked past a stretch of several bars, with tons of people hanging around on the sidewalk. As we passed, a guy called after us, asking if we had a cigarette. I ignored him, but he kept asking and was soon following us, along with another guy. Finally I turned and said no firmly, and we sped up a little, trying to get back to the hotel where my friend was staying.

We reached a parking lot near an open plaza, by which point they’d caught up to us. One of them reached under my coat and grabbed my ass, then pulled on my hair. I had a scarf knotted around my neck, and he yanked hard on the end so that it was pulled tight against my throat. They were circling us, shouting things. I can’t recall what they were saying because I panicked and was incoherent. I yelled no several times, in german and in english. I was crying. I saw some people in a parked car nearby, so I ran to the car and knocked on the window. The people ignored me and drove away.

Fortunately, the guys were somewhat deterred by my attempt to get help, and we had a second to escape. We started running. I could still feel them following us, and by the time we got to the front door of the hotel where my friend was staying, they had caught up again. Breathing hard, we frantically unlocked the door and slammed it shut in their faces. I feel lucky that I escaped unharmed (much worse things have happened to women in similar situations), but I’ve never felt so scared in my life.

I also felt guilty. When I panicked, the harassment became more intense. I can only assume they found my reaction humorous. For a long time, I constantly questioned myself–did I do something stupid? Was I overreacting? Did I bring it upon myself? Was it because I was a foreigner?

The worst thing is, the next day, we told the hotel concierge (who was, alarmingly, a female) what had happened, hoping my friend could cancel her reservation since she no longer felt safe at the hotel (they knew our location and could easily come back and find us if they wanted). We were summarily dismissed and told that it was “safe here.”

I shouldn’t make assumptions like this, and it may sound overly defensive, but I can’t help but think that her response stems partially from the wider belief that Americans are obtuse and unnecessarily obsessed with “political correctness.” After such a frightening experience, it was really insulting and discouraging for our warranted caution to be so callously disregarded. More than that, it speaks to an extreme lack of awareness regarding the severity of street harassment and how quickly even the most harmless-seeming “attention” can escalate into a seriously dangerous situation.

– anonymous

Location: Salzburg, Austria

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Filed Under: Stories, street harassment Tagged With: austria, salzburg, sexual harassment, street harassment, study abroad

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