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Police Arrest Street Harasser Who Attempted to Murder 14-Year-Old

September 26, 2013 By HKearl

Trigger Warning

Police have arrested a 21-year-old man in Florida after he strangled and ran over a 14-year-old girl whom he offered $200 to have sex with him (he didn’t know her) and she refused. He left her on the side of the road and her injuries were life threatening, but THANKFULLY she is stabilized.

Want to know why street harassment is serious and scary a lot of times? Because of stories like this. Because this could happen to any one of us, especially to teenagers/young women. THIS IS NOT OKAY. Street harassment is not okay. Male entitlement, disrespecting women and girls (and any living creature) is unacceptable. Our hearts go out to this young woman and to everyone who has been harmed by street harassers and abusers.

H/T Soraya Chemaly

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Filed Under: News stories Tagged With: attempted murder, serious crime, street harassment

Cameroon: Understanding the different forms of street harassment

August 9, 2013 By Contributor

By Zoneziwoh Mbondgulo, Buea, Cameroon, SSH Safe Public Spaces Mentee

“In many cities women and girls face violence not only in their homes and in relationships, but also in public spaces,” said Anna Tibaijuka, Under-Secretary General of the United Nations, and Executive Director of UN-HABITAT, in the Women’s Audit Safety Report findings, 2008.

In Cameroon, street harassment is still an overlooked issue. It is a common sight to see men and even young boys behaving as though it is right to publicly assault or harass a lady.  And for so long, women have been the victims and not the perpetrator of harassment, so much such that most of them deeply believe that such acts of aggression towards women is innate in men, more or less a norm rather than a social issue that needs urgent attention.

During first week of August, I launched an informal online and offline conversation project as part of my SSH Safe Public Spaces Mentoring Program project to engage people in public conversation on street harassment. I collected individual stories of harassment experiences, the majority from Facebook and some from young women in my area. Likewise, I mapped out places/cities that are unsafe or feel unsafe for women and girls in my society. In addition, together with my teammate, Ngwentah Berlyne Ngwalem, we also observed critically how men and women both use the public space both in big cities and remote communities.

Inasmuch as it was difficult for some women to feel safe sharing their experience publicly. At least, it was obvious that many women have experienced one or two or more forms of street harassment, knowingly or unknowingly.  According to available research, as cited in Holly Kearl’s book Stop Street Harassment: Making Public Places Safe and Welcoming for Women, it has been proved that “starting at a young age, as many as 80 percent of women around the world face at least occasional unwanted, harassing attention in public places from men they do not know; some women face it daily.”

Young Women’s Experience with Street Harassment

To begin, Berlyne said, “Sometimes I feel like being a woman sucks. You have no say over anything, over your own body, choices etc but people make it seem like you do. There are guys who will tap your ass, touch your chest/breasts, pull up your bra and smile at you before you actually figure out what is happening etc.”

Like Berlyne, another young woman said, “There is this attitude common with bike riders each time they carry a female passenger. They will ride with you and get at some point, they intentionally hold the breaks, clutching back and forth and each time they do that, it is obvious, you fall and lean on their back. But what most female passengers don’t realized is that the whole bike clutching is a trick to have women’s breast pressing over these bikers back.”

For some wicked bikers, she added, “They will position their elbow in a way that as you fall on their back and your breast presses hard on their elbows. And this is really painful. They have done that to me and I felt terrible! I recalled the last time; my breast pained me for closed to a month.”

For another young lady in her late twenties, she explained to us that, “Around the parking lots in her neighborhood at Nsimeyong-damas, in Yaoundé, Centre Region, Cameroon, there is always this particular groups of young guys idling around, throughout the day,” and she has observed that “Each time, a lady pass by, one of those guys must throw a comment, words and / or beckon at the lady or make some funny sound to pull the lady’s attention or provoke her. And in the night,” she added, “These guys can be very aggressive; they have been noted for always attacking / harassing women.

Laura R. Ivy also explained, “Men whistle when you pass and if you don’t answer they insult you. It seems to lessen as you age or maybe you don’t pay attention anymore. The worse is the bikers if one of them asks you where you are going and you don’t answer you receive threats and insults name calling etc.”

“I experience this every day, and honestly it sucks, can men not leave us alone? We have reasons why we don’t want all these primitive guys around, we want mature and responsible men around us,” said Patience Flora.

To another young lady, Konda Delphine, public harassment from men is something that she’s experienced a countless number of times.

From what Berlyne and I observed, the experiences cut across. We saw the same behavior everywhere –  in big cities like Douala, Yaoundé, and in parts of a remote community in Mutengene and /or Buea. We also realized a common behavioral pattern among men of certain profession across the regions. E.g. almost all motor bikers, park loaders, market hustlers, hawkers, have similar attitude and behavior towards women.

Zoneziwoh Mbondgulo

This is article is the first of my #SSH Efforts in raising awareness and campaign against street harassment in Cameroon. Next will be a focus group discussion with some selected people who have already been contacted. And thereafter, there will be a workshop and also a public poster exhibition and flyers distribution.

Updates on this project can be found at: Women for a Change- Cameroon, or via Twitter @zofem.

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Filed Under: SSH programs, Stories Tagged With: cameroon, research, street harassment

“It’s OK, we weren’t talking to you – just about you.”

June 21, 2013 By SSHIntern

A daytime shot of the intersection where this happened in Bay Ridge, Brooklyn. Photo credit: Anthony Lanzilote for AM New York.

I live in a safe neighborhood.

Of course, as a woman, that’s not an unqualified statement. What I mean is, I’ve only felt a relatively normal amount of fear when I walk alone or come home late. I don’t mean safe as in, I’m not worried about being harassed, followed, or worse. I mean, I’m not as worried about being harassed and followed as I would be in some other neighborhoods.

But last night I didn’t feel safe – I felt scared.

I went to pick up take-out for my boyfriend and me. I was presumptuous enough to do this alone. As I crossed the street kitty-corner from my block, two older men entered the cross walk as well. I did have that fleeting thought – it’s only a split second, hardly articulated, but spelled out it would read, “Please don’t say anything… not tonight…”

And then I heard, “Mira.” Spanish for, “Look.” Men in New York don’t usually expect me to speak Spanish. But I understood that one of them was telling the other to look at me, and when I turned he was a foot away from me, looking me up and down, and nearly drooling. (I know, I know, so flattering.)

I couldn’t help it. This was not a moment to “just ignore it” – he was too close. I said very clearly and directly to this man, “Please stop looking at me. It makes me uncomfortable.”

He replied, “It’s ok, I was just talking to my friend.”

It’s ok, we weren’t talking to you – just about you. This street doesn’t belong to you.

The other light was green and I needed to get away. I crossed the other street quickly, in front of the last few lighted shops before my dark apartment building. But when I was halfway up the block, I saw the man who had originally pointed me out crossing diagonally through the middle of the street and heading straight toward me. I started to panic. Was he coming after me? Was he going to say something? Would he try to hurt me? Would anyone help? This is New York…

I immediately made a plan. I was carrying my cell phone and wallet in one hand and my dinner and an umbrella in the other. If anyone – a sexual harasser or otherwise – wanted to take my wallet, it would have been easy. I’ve heard so many stories, and had so many men overreact when I told them to stop harassing me, that I knew, if he was following me, how this would play out. If this man wanted to intimidate me, the easiest thing for him to do would be to grab my wallet and phone and push me to the ground. He would walk away with some cash, an iPhone, and a renewed sense of his violent power.

I put the take-out bag handle over my left wrist and with the same hand held my phone and wallet against my stomach. In my right hand, I gripped the handle of my folded umbrella, ready to defend myself.

Perhaps I should note here – I’m a peace activist. I’m a practitioner of nonviolence, and everything I do personally and professionally is aimed at reducing the amount of violence in this world. But here I was, outside my own home in my “safe” neighborhood, mentally preparing myself to hit a man with my umbrella as hard as I could to defend myself.

I was thinking it through – he had fallen in step behind me, so if I heard him get close or saw his shadow too near me, I would have to turn around. I couldn’t let him get between me and my front door or I’d never get home safely. If he put his hands on me I’d get one good whack to bat him off and I’ve have to instantly run. If I didn’t run as fast as I could and get inside that door, there would be no fending off this man twice my height. And if he happened to be walking behind me because he lived in my building of 125 units where no one talks to their neighbors, well, then, there was no hope for me.

I got inside and up four flights of stairs as fast as I could, and he didn’t try to follow me. But my boyfriend and I were both scared and angry for several minutes even after I’d dead bolted our door.

Most of the time these men don’t follow me. Compared to the stories I’ve heard, I’ve been very lucky. But this isn’t the first time this has happened, and I know it won’t be the last. Every time a man harasses me, and especially when I dare to speak back, I have to plan my self defense, my escape route, the bystander I’ll look to, and what I’ll yell. I’ve practiced, “I don’t know you! Stop it!” lest anyone think this a “domestic dispute” that they shouldn’t get involved in.

This is the city, and the world, we live in. I can march against rape, injustice, police violence, and the war, but when I go out at night… I’d better have that umbrella.

Talia Hagerty is peace economics activist and Stop Street Harassment’s 2013 summer intern. Follow her on twitter – @taliahagerty – or read her blog about making the world better at www.theoryofchange.wordpress.com.

 

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Filed Under: Stories, street harassment Tagged With: brooklyn, following, New York City, safe streets, street harassment

CGES Street Harassment Youth Summit was a Success!

May 14, 2013 By HKearl

This is belatedly cross-posted from the Girls for Gender Equity newsletter, with permission.

The Coalition for Gender Equity in Schools (CGES) held a Youth Summit on Street Harassment on March 25, 2013 at the Urban Assembly Institute that exceeded our highest expectations!

We planned for 50 middle and high school students to attend this youth led event, but to our surprise 100 students showed up and convened in downtown Brooklyn for the CGES summit. These remarkable students and youth leaders chose to spend the first day of their spring break with us in a variety of workshops that examined street harassment.

In spite of the rain, students began arriving in droves at 10:00 am to register, eat breakfast and mingle. By the beginning of the program, the meeting room was filled beyond capacity and an overflow room had to be set up to accommodate participants.

Throughout the summit, youth leaders from Girls for Gender Equity, Center for Anti-Violence Education (CAE), Right Rides, Sadie Nash Leadership Project and Girls Inc. emceed, facilitated, and supported their peers in an action packed, thought-provoking day of activities, dialogues and workshops.

The day opened with an enthusiastic welcome by GGE’s Youth Organizer, Nathania Fields and CAE’s Peer Educator, Mercy Carpenter, the emcees for the event. Nathania and Mercy set the tone of the day, encouraging participants to share their thoughts and listen to one other. They then introduced the Host Committee and organizational staff, who discussed the goals and purpose of the event.

The first activity, ‘The Roots of Street Harassment Tree,’ set the stage for in-depth conversations about why street harassment occurs at every level. Participants were divided up into groups of ten and given a large drawn tree. They were asked to fill out the roots of the tree with the roots of Street Harassment and the trunks of the tree with what supports street harassment aka customs, beliefs, attitudes and institutions.

The Roots of Street Harassment Tree

Towards the day’s end, the young people at the youth summit chose to write love letters to the 16-year-old high school rape survivor in Steubenville, Ohio. Unfortunately after the trial against two teen boys that were found guilty in this case, she had been bullied and blamed for their actions. The youth had a deep empathy for what she has been through and wanted her to know how brave an courageous she is.

    
The last activity of the day invited the young people to sign up for different events presented at a row of ‘Action Booths’ that lined the hallway outside the meeting room. All of these events prepared us for April Sexual Assault Awareness Month and and the Anti-Street Harassment Rally on Saturday, April 13.

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Filed Under: Events, street harassment Tagged With: girls for gender equity, Right Rides, street harassment, summit, youth

India: Safe City Website, #SafeCityPledge

January 4, 2013 By HKearl

Here are more anti-harassment initiatives from India:

1) Map It: There’s a new website for tracking street harassment in India: www.safecity.in, email info@safecity.in, or you can download the Android app here, the iPhone app here, for free.

Share your stories via email, Twitter, phone app and the web and they will be posted on the map in real time.

2) Pledge, Photo, Share: Blank Noise is continuing its successful #SafeCityPledge campaign online:

Through January 12:
1. Make a pledge for how you will make your city safe.
2. Take a photo of yourself holding your pledge
3. Make it your Facebook profile photo + add it to this album
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