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Archives for September 2016

“I felt like a piece of meat”

September 18, 2016 By Contributor

I was in a mall parking garage, walking to my car, when two men drove by me. One wolf whistled at me. I yelled at him to “f**k off,” and he yelled back at me: “I was calling you cute, f**king bitch!” I cried afterwards. I felt demeaned and objectified. I felt like a piece of meat. I cried over the fact I was scared and belittled, and reduced to a sexual OBJECT even though I am a human being. I cried over the fact that women are treated like this, and worse, every single day. I cried over the fact there are men in this world who hate women. I cried over the fact that there are people in power in the American government, the country that is supposed to be the most free in the world, who actively try to restrict women’s rights. I cried over the fact that I live in a sexist world.

Optional: What’s one way you think we can make public places safer for everyone?

Teach men to treat women with respect.

– Katy

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“I felt good about speaking up for myself”

September 15, 2016 By Contributor

I leave home pretty early for work, somewhere between 5:20 and 5:30 am. Anyway I braced myself for the typical AM catcalls before stepping foot out of the door. I made it halfway up the street and hadn’t heard any misogynistic or derogatory remarks and so I thought to myself, “I’ll be okay, so far so good.”

Nope. my optimistic thought immediately vacated as soon as I heard the honk of a horn. The honk came from a black truck who I assumed was only occupied by just the driver alone. I continued to walk further down the street where I came upon the 7-11. I braced myself once again because this 7-11 in particular tends to have an unwelcomed crowd of men just “hanging” out there at odd hours of the night. Anyway I soon realize that the same black truck that honked at me was sitting in the parking lot including not only the driver but three other passengers. GREAT. Next thing I hear is, “Good morning sexy!” Normally I would ignore situations like this because men tend to be bold because they’re in their vehicle, a confined space where they feel safe enough to make unflattering remarks. Ironic. I couldn’t keep walking this time, I was so fed up. I snapped and said, “Shut-up. Just shut the f*** up!”. Silence. They didn’t say anything else to me. I felt good about speaking up for myself but I do wish I didn’t have to go to those lengths to get respect and a peace of mind.

Ever since I snapped a lot of the catcalling I normally experience in the morning and leaving work has declined tremendously. I think the worst part of catcalling, street harassment, etc. is that 98% of the time the perpetrator is a black male. I’m sure I’m not the only one to attest to this. I’m black as well and it just saddens me to know how disrespected the black female is in America, even by her own race.

– Mercedes

Location: Washington, DC

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“I now no longer feel safe to do so and am trying to move”

September 14, 2016 By Contributor

I have many stories of harassment. I live in St. Louis and ride the bus and walk a lot. I now no longer feel safe to do so and am trying to move.

The other day, I walked to a nearby gas station to get some snacks, and a man behind me said in a low voice, “I can get you more candy.” I ignored him and checked out. As I was walking back, he drove his car with tinted windows by me and tried to say something to me. I ignored him. I usually have my phone, but didn’t that day. I felt very vulnerable. He drove away, then as I rounded the corner, he pulled up beside me to cut me off. I walked to the other side of the street saying to myself, “Oh no you don’t” and he followed me home. I acted like I didn’t live there and kept on walking until he drove away. Scary stuff.

There are countless times I am in the bus and a man asks, “Do you need a boyfriend?” I instantly feel angry. One time, as a man sat next to me and asked that, I looked him straight in the eye and said no and told him that I think men need to respect women out here on the streets. He looked so serious, said he could tell I was serious and that he had never heard a woman say that before. I told him maybe he could go tell other men.

The thing that makes me feel so uncomfortable is when you walk and a man says hi while staring at your crotch or chest. I have had men try to talk to me at the bus stop, the whole time, staring at my crotch. I ignored it, but next time, want to head on say, “Stop staring at my crotch.”

I just enrolled in a kickboxing/ self defense class. I am a thin woman and have a sensitive and kind personality. I feel like living with all of this harassment for over 10 years is turning me into a person I am not really because as I walk, I pretend I am talking on the phone, avoid eye contact, and look above people. It has affected my relationships with other males in that I find it hard to trust them. This is why I know I need to move out of this area because it has taken a toll on my mental health to constantly be ‘hard’, hypervigilant, and on the defense.

– J

Location: St Louis, MO- Arsenal and Gravois, Kingshighway and Delmar, Chippewa and Oregon

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“Turning my back to that guy to walk away terrified me”

September 12, 2016 By Contributor

I was sitting reading a book on the train on my way back from school. This guy came and sat across from me and asked me what I was reading. I showed him the cover but didn’t reply, I just kept reading. He tried again, “You seem really interested in it.” Again, I ignored him and kept reading.

Not getting my attention, he tried another tactic. He placed his backpack next to me, boxing me in close to the window and spread himself across the whole seat in front of me. He moved his leg to touch mine. I moved my leg. He moved his leg again to touch mine. Again I moved. Again he moved his leg, and by this time I was scrunching myself into the corner. I was afraid to say something even though there were other people around. I froze. I just wanted to get out of there, so I gave him an angry look, put my bookmark in my book, stood up while holding my backpack and went to a different part of the train.

I saw a guy look from the man who harassed me, to me, then back to the guy. I think he saw what was happening but didn’t know what to do to help. I was so scared and angry and nervous that I was shaking when we reached my stop. He stood to get off at the same place. I stopped the closest normal-looking man standing up to exit the train. “Excuse me,” I said, “see that guy over there in the red and white striped shirt?” He nodded. “He is kind of harassing me. Can you keep an eye on him for me?” He nodded and we all got off the train. I walked to the indoor train station coffee shop and sat to wait until my brother could pick me up. I was still so scared. Turning my back to that guy to walk away terrified me. I hate feeling unsafe. That guy robbed me of my feeling of security. I cried for 20 minutes when I got home. I scrubbed and scrubbed the part of my leg he touched and immediately put my pants in the laundry. I felt like burning those pants. Nothing helped. I am dreading taking that same train again tomorrow.

Optional: What’s one way you think we can make public places safer for everyone?

Stay aware of what is happening around you. If you see somebody making advances, speak up! You never know when someone is too scared to do it themself.

– Anonymous

Location: RTD train in Denver, Colorado

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Welcome to the 2016 Third Cohort of Correspondents

September 12, 2016 By HKearl

Meet the Correspondents of the Third Cohort of 2016

zoeZoe Biel, Minnesota, USA

Zoe is a student at Macalester College in Saint Paul, MN. She grew up in Oakland, CA in a family full of crazy feminists and is frequently surprised by the way people behave in the “real world”. She is currently a member of the “Sssnake Goddesss Art Collective” and plans to produce a zine focused on the female experience in coming months. 

 

Alys C.R., Barcelona, Spain

alys250Alys was born and raised in France, lived for a time in Denmark and has lived in Spain for the past seven years. She likes researching, analyzing and writing about Women’s Rights, gender bias, and intersectionalism with a special focus on sexual violence, rape, rape culture, the impact of street harassment and how the media deals with these issues. She is currently working on a new project focused on how some media participate in the revictimization of victims. The objective will be to offer an alternative by rewriting the incriminated articles. She follows the work and activities of various organisations, especially l’Aadas which provides help and support to victims of sexual violence in Barcelona. Apart from that she loves travelling, learning new languages, ballet and flamenco. You will be able to follow her and her projects in her brand new Facebook page and twitter @Alyselily.

Grace Gageby, Dublin, Ireland

Grace is a student. She writes regularly for her school newsletter and yearbook, and has been published in Inis Magazine. Grace is currently involved with the socialist feminist group ROSA (for Reproductive rights, against Oppression, Sexism & Austerity), and their campaign for abortion rights in Ireland. Part of ROSA’s 15 point plan is to end the social ills of macho culture, and end street harassment and victim- blaming. Grace is particularly interested in intersectional feminism, and how street harassment affects teenagers. Grace is interested in understanding rape culture and how young people can fight this. She enjoys playing classical guitar and reading.

Alexandra Jurecko, Montreal, Canada

AProcessed with VSCO with 2 presetlexandra is a freelance writer and recent graduate of Heidelberg University in Germany, where she earned a BA in South Asian Studies and English Literature. During her time at university, Alexandra started her research on the role of women’s activism in post-colonial India. Inspired by this work, she’s committed to advancing the conversation around gender-based discrimination and sexual harassment across all societies, starting with her new home in Canada. Having moved across the pond to live and work in Montreal, she now focuses on refreshing her French skills while volunteering her time to various community-outreach programs. Here, she also hopes to pursue a degree in visual journalism, so she can tell her stories in colour. Alexandra drinks a lot of coffee, listens to a lot of podcasts and loves the great outdoors. You can follow her on twitter @alexjurecko.

Suchita Kotnala, Texas, USA

suchitaSuchita was raised in western India by loving and supportive parents who helped her and her sister to grow into strong, independent and career-oriented women. She’s a registered general practitioner in India and is currently preparing to obtain medical residency in the United States. She is passionate about women’s rights especially because she has had firsthand experiences of harassment and sexist behavior at public spaces, school and work. She believes that in order for women to enjoy equal rights and opportunities, the society needs to recognize that it’s a problem first. In her spare time, Suchita loves playing scrabble, hiking in woods and baking vegan double chocolate chip cookies.

Sequoya Lajoy, Louisiana, USA

sequoyaSequoya is a Native American and Italian woman from Chicago who fell in love with New Orleans. She’s currently a Sociology Major at Loyola University New Orleans and supports her higher education habit by slinging drinks to the masses. She aspires to attain a PhD and write a best seller. She currently operates a small blog and writes weekly at and hopes to expand her writing and artistic ventures. She is undecided about law school but would like to use her knowledge and skills to bring attention to issues close to her heart such as sexual assault, racial and gender equality, domestic violence, immigration rights, indigenous rights, health care, reproductive rights, human trafficking, mass incarceration, police brutality, and addressing economic and social inequalities. Her dream job would be to do international research and make a global impact. She loves the ocean, mountains, live music, street artists, poetry, and making community and sisterhood.

Nyasha Joyce Mukuwane, Johannesburg, South Africa

nyashaNyasha is the public awareness coordinator at the Nisaa Institute for Women’s Development in Johannesburg, South Africa, where the main goal is counselling and sheltering survivors of domestic abuse. In 2013 she facilitated a book titled; “Rising Up, Moving On: Women writing our lives,’ written by survivors of domestic violence and again facilitated a book written by young adolescent South African girls in June 2016 titled “We are those girls: writing our stories.” Both books are available to download for free from the website www.nisaa.org.za. She is passionate about advocating for women’s rights and the war of ownership of women’s bodies is a harrowing one in SA as harassment often turns violent and may lead to sexual assault.

Priyanka Nandy, Mumbai, India

Priyanka is a researcher at the Indian Institute of Technology, Bombay. She is interested in the intersection of public health, gender/sexuality/reproductivity, and modes of violence. In her spare time, she likes to translate her favourite bits of Bengali genre-fiction to English, some of them can be found at https://priyankanandy.com. Despite a steady exposure to street harassment since she was a child, Priyanka still enjoys walking about alone, and loves every form of mass-transportation, except airplanes.

Shawn Ray, Croatia, Macedonia, Greece, Turkey, Iran

shawnrayShawn Ray is an avid traveler and freelance writer/photojournalist. Also a TEFL instructor, Shawn has visited over 70 countries and lived for a year or more in several foreign communities. In 2015, Shawn followed the migration of Syrian asylum seekers from Turkey through the Netherlands. A member of GoTravelBroad, (a solo-female travel support and advocacy group) Shawn is focused on creating awareness to end violence against women worldwide, through empowering women to travel without apology.

UNmuted Productions, UK

unmuted-logo_1UNmuted Productions is a small multi-disciplinary production company founded by Ness Lyons and April Hughes in March 2016 to make punchy work about legal and social issues affecting women and young people. it’s debut short film, ‘I Smile Politely’, about street harassment, is being screened in competition at the prestigious international Encounters Short Film & Animation Festival on the 23rd September 2016. Ness wrote ‘I Smile Politely’, which is performed by April, after her young daughter experienced street harassment. Ness and April wish to encourage women and girls to speak up about all forms of sexual harassment and discrimination. Follow them on Twitter: @unmutedprods and Facebook.

nesslyonsNess Lyons is a playwright, filmmaker and spoken word poet. She runs UNmuted Productions, is a member of Soho Theatre Writers’ Lab and is currently developing a script with an award-winning production company. Ness’s plays have been performed at The Criterion Theatre and various Off-West End theatres, and her spoken word poetry’s been performed at The Southbank Centre as part of Women of the World Festival and at a cross-arts event hosted by filmmakers Shorts on Tap and the charity English PEN. Ness will be performing her new spoken word piece at the enat a cros. Her writing’s been published on The Pool website and as part of an online anthology of monologues. A former employment & discrimination lawyer, Ness also works as a freelance Legal Consultant and Storyline Creator for the LLB Legal Practice degree at City Law School, University of London. Follow her work at: nesslyons.net and on Twitter: @lyonsness

aprilhughes1April Hughes studied at East 15 School for Acting. TV Credits include 3 series of Dixi for Kindle Entertainment and CBBC. Theatre credits include ‘Girls Like That’ by Synergy Theatre and ‘Freak’ by Anna Jordan, for which April won The Stage Award for Acting Excellence. April is currently playing Sandra in the West End’s ‘The Play That goes Wrong’. Follow her on Twitter: @hughesapril

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