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This New Survey on Trans Bathroom Discrimination Should Alarm Everyone

July 13, 2016 By Contributor

Patrick Ryne McNeil, SSH Board Member

Toilet sign 4.pptxThis is a fact: LGBTQ people experience public harassment – and according to our spring 2014 report, LGBTQ people in the United States are more likely than straight, cisgender people to report experiencing it (both verbal and physical forms). The sample size in our research forced us to group the entire LGBTQ community into one category. While this lumping is not ideal and cannot account for the ways that intersecting identities lead everyone to experience the world differently, it did show that queer people – as past research has shown – are victims of public harassment.

Preliminary findings from the 2015 U.S. Transgender Survey, out this month from the National Center for Transgender Equality, show that trans people face one particularly dangerous form of public harassment: the kind that takes place in public restrooms.

According to the preliminary results:

  • 59 percent of respondents have avoided bathrooms in the last year because they feared confrontations in public restrooms at work, at school, or in other places.
  • 12 percent said they’ve been harassed, attacked, or sexually assaulted in a bathroom in the last year.
  • 31 percent said they’ve avoided drinking or eating so that they didn’t need to use the restroom in the last year.
  • 9 percent report being denied access to the appropriate restroom in the last year.

These findings should concern and anger everyone. In the same way that street harassment can force women and other marginalized communities into making consequential life changes – like adjusting their commute, moving homes, or switching jobs – harassment of trans people in public bathrooms, as the survey shows, can cause them to avoid using public facilities or can discourage them from drinking or eating in the first place. Those are harmful choices that no one should have to make.

While 12 percent reported experiencing harassment, attacks, or sexual assault, 59 percent have avoided restrooms because they’re afraid it will happen to them. That fear – even in the absence of harassment – is unhealthy. And bills popping up across the country to restrict restroom access aren’t helping.

The full U.S. Transgender Survey will be released later this year.

Patrick works in communications at The Leadership Conference on Civil and Human Rights, where he writes on a range of social justice issues. He is a board member of Stop Street Harassment and he wrote his thesis on the street harassment of gay and bisexual men at the George Washington University. He was awarded SSH’s Safe Public Spaces Trailblazer award in 2013 for his street harassment-related work.

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USA: What Can I Say? Taking Submissions for Witty Responses to Harassers

July 10, 2016 By Correspondent

Hope Herten, IL, USA, SSH Blog Correspondent

ViaHollabackDesMoinesIf we had a daily post limit for life, I would have to be quiet for the vast majority of my waking minutes. Talking is one of my favorite hobbies; I’m an expert in forming opinions and I’m a speaking-my-mind frequent flier. As a person who always has something to say, why can’t I stand up for myself when faced with unwanted harassment?

A combination of fear and surprise is probably the top contributing factor; rarely am I approached when I am expecting it or by someone less threatening than me. Though I tell myself that maybe not saying anything at all is the high road, I can’t help feeling that an inability to speak reinforces the power structure being exploited by my harassers.

Often we are taught that it is better to say nothing at all than to speak too quickly and let our emotions run away with our words, and though many intelligent men and women have preached this ideal, I have come to struggle with it, particularly in the last few weeks where harassment has become more frequent in my life.

Is it better to say nothing when patriarchal men try to assert dominance over you in public than to say something that may come out wrong? Does it make a bigger impact to ignore a harasser or give him a piece of your mind? Are harassers impacted at all by what you say or don’t say to them? Am I showing my strength by saying nothing or am I admitting defeat? None of these questions seem to have a clear-cut answer; there is no prescription for patriarchy, no magic words to make someone see what they are doing is harmful.

My conclusion comes back to my favorite aspect of feminism: choice. Silence can be a deliberate act of defiance, refusing to let an oppressive voice cause you to lose your cool and say things you don’t mean. Simultaneously, refusing to stay silent is a choice to empower yourself in a different way, vocalizing your refusal to submit. For some, being forced to speak out of anger or fear can help reinforce the power structure that harassers are acting in. For me, silence isn’t a courageous act. I am scared to speak when harassed in public for fear of saying something wrong, I am afraid of angering the harasser, and I worry that what I say won’t matter. I need to remind myself that I am strong and intelligent and that despite what my words mean to an oppressive body, they mean a lot to me and I will not be made silent by a complete stranger.

I want to remind all of you, that no one should make you do something that makes you feel like a lesser person.  Whether you remain silent or speak up, make it your act of protest. Don’t let a single person or moment push you down, because as a collective, feminists are coming together to give you the freedom to go outside and not have to make the choice at all.

P.S. If you are looking for some great suggestions Stop Street Harassment already has some, here and here.

Hope is a full-time undergraduate student studying public health and Spanish in Chicago, IL.  If you want to keep up with Hope you can follow her on Twitter @hope_lucille or check out her public health blog.

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USA: How much of Sexual Harassment of Women is Media’s Responsibility?

July 8, 2016 By Correspondent

Manish Madan, Ph.D, USA, SSH Blog Correspondent

Note-Card-CapableA few weeks ago, I participated in a panel discussion on street harassment. My fellow participants included a lifelong advocate on gender rights and women’ safety in India, Dr. Sharada Jayagopal – part of Women Graduate-USA, a physician by profession, and the TV personality, Ms. Renee Mehrra who is also a well-known activist for women’s right. Renee asked me about my views on the role of media (particularly Bollywood movies) in regards to the sexual harassment of women. I think as a society we need to ask this question more often given the wide-reach of media, its permeability in our society, and how it shapes our opinions and beliefs.

So for the purpose of this post, I will revisit some of the research about media’s role influencing the sexual harassment of women. The presentation of women often based solely on their physical appearance, including certain manners inviting sexual innuendos, is often noted in the research. In some cases, media shows women to be submissive.

Media cultivation theory states, “The views shown on the television media is mostly taken as the messages and beliefs that are real and valid’” and will argue that the consistent portrayal of women in a sexually objectifying manner or as someone who can be harassed and will remain submissive when harassed, is likely to be taken as a reality outside the “idiot box” as well.

Naturally, the media content varies within the genres, such as music videos, soap operas, comedies, action movies, dramas, etc. Some genres attract more objectification than others. For instance, Selena Gomez’s song Good for You will be strikingly different from CNN Erin Brunnet’s Out Front — unless it involves Chris Matthews at CNBC “Hardball” (no pun intended!) asking her to come close to the screen during a video interview just so her could tell her, “You look great!”

In a study from Italy, Silvia Galdi and her co-authors examined the relationship between the objectification of women as sexual objects and the likelihood of sexual harassment occurring using Italian TV Programs. The authors used three sets of video clips depicting, i) objectified women, ii) non-objectified women, and iii) no women in the video. The study showed participants’ higher harassment penchant after watching the objectification TV program compared to watching the non-objectified women professionals or the ones where there were no women in the video.

The study also noted that male participants reported greater intentions to engage in sexual coercion and a higher likelihood to engage in harassment behavior as a result of viewing TV programs that depicted objectified women. Interestingly, participants who watched objectified programs were also more likely to conform with the traditional masculinity norms regarding dominance (used as a symbol of sex and power), and aggression.

The question thus goes back to the initial discussion, does the media create new social realities or is it a mere transmitter of existing social certainties? Thoughts?

Either way, such realities or certainties that comprises one gender or makes their existence vulnerable in a public space must be addressed.

There is also evidently some research that shows that the amount of time a youth spends consuming some form of the media is much more than the time spent in school or having interpersonal communications with parents. That said, if I view our social structure that enables an environment of sexual harassment as a jigsaw puzzle, then media will perhaps be one vital piece that has some role in this puzzle. Expanding the landscape of women portrayal in media with shows like #Quantico with a female lead charting her own course is probably a good change going forward where the women are not seen as mere sexual objects.

Do you think someone will consider sexually harassing the FBI recruit, #AlexParrish?

As a civilized society formed on principles of equality and respect, the media does have a role in either condoning or monitoring the objectification (often sexual in nature) of women, and having a larger role to play in our society’s struggle toward addressing the sexual harassment of women.

In conclusion, while I discussed the role of media in gender objectification, I also want to offer caution in singularly blaming it for the gender harassment as it will lead us to a reductionist approach. It is not only media nor is it all media, but perhaps there is a little bit of everything. Media is one bit of the puzzle and we also need to focus on various social, cultural, patriarchal and environmental factors that also promulgate the concept of gender harassment in our society.

Please use #MediaRoleinSH to share your views. I will look forward to reading and commenting on it!

#SexualHarassment #Masculinity #Dominance #MediaPortrayalofWomen #Italy

Manish is a Professor of Criminal Justice at Stockton University where his research focuses on examining sexual harassment, gender empowerment, spousal abuse and policing issues. You can follow him @Prof_Madan or reach out to him at www.manishmadan.com.

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“I told him he needs to control his comments.”

July 7, 2016 By Contributor

Just yesterday, at a Family Dollar, I was harassed by a middle aged man. I was wearing a bandage skirt and he said, “I feel like I just want to grab that thing. You need to cover it up because I’m attracted to shit like that.”

I told him he needs to control his comments. He told me my man was an idiot for letting me dress like that. I felt very terrified, because he just threatened to rape me, technically.

– Betty Miller

Location: Broad and Girard Ave. in Philadelphia, PA

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“They continued trying to create a picture of me as the victim who deserved this act of violence”

July 6, 2016 By Contributor

I was driving into an outdoor shopping center a little after lunchtime when two men who were walking in my direction looked at me and yelled, “Hey” in a loud and not-so-friendly way.

When I didn’t look in their direction, they hit my car with metal pipes and yelled, “Hey, Bitch watch where you are going.”

I drove my car to a different area of the parking lot. When I walked out, they followed me in their car and yelled,”Hey, Bitch you really need to listen to us. You’re not that important.”

When I reported this incident to the police, they advised me to stay in the same parking lot while they sent a patrol car, which never arrived. They joked about it and asked me what I had done to encourage their behavior. When I finally decided to drive to the police station in Canoga Park on my own, the police officers asked me if I like it hard in the middle of their interview with me of the incident. They continued trying to create picture of me as the victim who deserved this act of violence. They behaved in the same way with another woman who was filing a report against a man who had assaulted her.

However, they were far too patient with a man who was talking about real estate laws because it allowed the police officer to gloat about the house he owned. It showed the dichotomy between the way the police officers treated the women and men in their precinct. There was not one single female police officer in the precinct and as I and the other woman told our story, the police officers in the front and back chuckled and laughed, because that is how much they valued our words.

Optional: What’s one way you think we can make public places safer for everyone?

Educate police personnel not to take this issue lightly. The police officers I spoke to on the phone joked about it and insinuated that it was somehow something I had done that caused the incident. Make sure there are enough female officers or well trained officers to deal with these types of incidents.

– Anonymous

Location: Shopping center on the corner of Topanga Ave in Woodland Hills

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