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“I am sick of feeling like shit because of catcalling”

October 17, 2015 By Contributor

I was walking home at night with my friend after seeing a movie and we passed two boys on the opposite side of the street. For reasons known only to them, they felt it was ok to scream across the street at us and make many derogatory comments regarding my appearance and body. The comments were extremely hurtful and whilst I didn’t feel like I was in danger, I was very upset afterwards and enraged.

I wanted to respond at the time that it happened, to get angry but because it was night-time I didn’t for fear that the situation would escalate. I wish the comments they made about me being ugly didn’t bother me, but they do. That’s why I’m sharing this story, because I am sick of feeling like shit because of catcalling.

– J

Location: Albury, NSW, Australia

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“I stopped running outdoors”

October 16, 2015 By Contributor

One time I went for a run and half way through it, a man on a bike decided to follow me. He slowed up behind and me and whistled and sped up to be beside me. He was telling me horrid things that I didn’t even try to remember. I told him to leave me alone and he wouldn’t.

He followed me for a whole city block. I took a sharp turn and crossed the street. I went up to two gardener workers and asked if they could call the police. The man was still following me. He was trying to cross the road, but it he had to go over a traffic island. He almost made it over, but he saw that I was pointing at him and trying to call the police. He darted away on his bike. I walked home.

He was making comments about my body and I was just trying to run and be fit…which is one of my favorite things to do. I stopped running outdoors. I stopped running because I don’t ever want to experience that again.

Another time I was on the bus. I was speaking on the phone as quietly as I could to my little sister because I wanted to be a respectful passenger. I don’t see her often and I was catching up with her. A man comes on the bus and sits in front of me. While he was taking his seat, he turned his head back to smile at me. I felt like this was not going to go well. He whipped his head back every now and then to smile at me, making me uncomfortable more and more. I asked my sister to check the bus times for me online, because I planned on transferring to another bus and she was telling me the times. The guy in front of me turns his head back and he is about to tell me something. I was annoyed at this point and angrily asked, “Can I help you?” He said he was going to tell me the bus times. I told him that he was making me uncomfortable every time he looked back to smile. He said he only did it once (not true). I told him it was creepy and he stood up so quickly and so close to me. I thought he was going to hurt me, but he shouted that I wasn’t attractive and went to the back of the bus. I didn’t take the bus again at all that week.

Optional: What’s one way you think we can make public places safer for everyone?

Public ads that tell people not to street harass.

– L.L.C.

Location: Cicero and Forest Park, Chicago

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“I was so scared they would actually hurt me”

October 16, 2015 By Contributor

I was 14 years old and I was at my local library. It was a hot day so I had a short t-shirt on and leggings, but you couldn’t see my butt or my boobs. I was just sitting there, reading a book when two teenage boys (maybe 17-18 years old) approached me and started to have a conversation with me. At first it was basic questions, if i had a boyfriend, how old I was, etc. I felt already really uncomfortable and after a time I didn’t respond them anymore and just ignored them.

They got angry then, started to yell at me that I was a bitch, that I surely had a nice pussy and that they would f*ck me on the bathroom floor. It was terrible. I couldn’t answer, I was so scared they would actually hurt me. Luckily the librarian noticed what was going on and sent them away. I don’t know what would have happened otherwise. Still, I left the library feeling dirty and scared.

– S.P.

Location: Local library

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Together We Must Change the Culture of Masculinity

October 15, 2015 By HKearl

We have some pretty amazing people serving on our board of directors, including Dr. Laura S. Logan, an assistant professor of sociology at Hastings College in Nebraska. In 2013, she wrote her PhD dissertation on street harassment: “Fear of violence and street harassment: accountability at the intersections.”

DrLauraLoganlectureNEOct2015Last week, she gave a lecture at her university on street harassment + intersectionality. Her lecture was covered in the campus paper by Mallory Gruben. Here is an excerpt:

“Through her research, Logan found that the underlying theme of street harassment stemmed from socialized gender roles. In the majority of the cases she studied, harassers that were “coded as masculine” targeted individuals they “coded as feminine.” Although this coding is often unique to each case, the harasser was typically male, and he typically identified the target as female or feminine.

Logan closed her lecture by offering a solution to fighting street harassment: stop gender policing. The prevalence of masculinity and femininity in cases of street harassment suggest a fulfillment of socialized gender roles. By allowing people to act within human nature instead of within set gender roles, there would be less expectation for men to be dominant and women to be sexualized, thus changing the culture of masculinity and breaking socialized gender roles.

Logan explains that in order to stop gender policing and change the culture of masculinity, everyone must play an active role.

“I don’t want anybody to be mistaken and think that means that we have to change men or that men are the ones responsible,” Logan said. “All of us—men, women, those who don’t identify as any particular gender, or gender queer—are responsible for changing the culture of masculinity.”

Agreed! You can view/listen to her full speech on YouTube.

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Italy: Are you sure you want to wear a skirt today?

October 15, 2015 By Correspondent

Sara Rigon, Italy, SSH Blog Correspondent

"Sit upright and cross your legs" - photo by the author
“Sit upright and cross your legs” – photo by the author

A few weeks ago my sister and I were talking about street harassment and she told me the story of a man who was caught taking pictures up the skirt of women traveling on Milan public transport. Apparently most victims never suspected their crotches and buttocks have been photographed as the man was smart enough to hide his camera in what looked like a harmless cardboard tube.

When asked about the 5000 upskirt shots, the man explained he had a passion for Italian neorealism cinema: he was giving voice to such fine art. The wannabe director was found not guilty for his épreuve d’artist, but could not enjoy freedom as police also retrieved child pornography material at his apartment along with illegal bullets and for that he was convicted to 2 years and 10 months behind bars. He is in jail, but not for uperskirting, because that is not a crime, not in Italy at least.

I felt shocked and outraged for quite awhile, I could not believe it possible. Not the upskirting, that is no surprise, it is a tragic reality. Sadly as a woman you are definitely aware of and sort of expect such violation of your body from men and society as a whole. It happens everyday when you walk down the street to work or from your yoga class: you may be victim of street harassment (catcalling, blocking path, following, masturbating or spraying semen on women , etc..) or in the best case scenario you are just bombarded by images of partially nude or stripped women or women’s body parts on gigantic billboards inviting you to buy all sort of products.

What really struck me was and still is the fact that upskirting is not a crime. Secretly taking (stealing?) pictures of private parts of clothed and unsuspecting women is allowed and within the law in Italy and in many other countries around the world, maybe even in yours. I couldn’t turn my head around it and so I did what I usually do when I can’t make sense of something: I researched the subject.

"dangerous, unsafe pretty dresses" - photo by the author
“Dangerous, unsafe pretty dresses” – photo by the author

First, to my big surprise, I learned there is in fact a specific term to identify such an outraging and offensive practice: upskirting. Next, in the attempt of grasping the magnitude of the problem, I looked the “new term” up on the internet and to my dismay I discovered that upskirting is very much spread through out the world as well as the cyberspace. The amount of FB pages and Twitter accounts dedicated to or named after upskirting is alarmingly shocking.

Mercifully, among the hundreds of websites displaying what, in all likelihood, must be thousands of upskirting snapshots from all over the world, there are several bloggers, women’s right activists and journalists who discuss upskirting ethical and legal issues, raising awareness on this demeaning practice. The main issue discussed is impunity: upskirting is commonly perceived as wrongdoing, nonetheless is legal.

Most judges around the world have difficulties convicting upskirting enthusiasts as in most countries there are no specific laws that prohibit such a practice. And yet, upskirting is such an abusive practice that you would easily think other acts and decrees must regulate it. No need for another law. After all upskirting is a non-consensual, unwanted sexual misconduct, it must infringe some other already existing regulation on voyeurism, decency or at least privacy and the right to feel safe in a pubic place. But no, that’s not the case.

You would think that upskirting is voyeurism, but that is just common sense. Legally voyeurism is about images of completely nude bodies or body parts and it occurs in a place where people have a reasonably expectation of privacy. A public place does not give any assurance of privacy, therefore in a public place voyeurism is not a crime. And there is more, while a growing number of US states have laws against upskirt photos, last year a US Superior Court Judge stated that “women who dress and position themselves so that their intimate parts may be viewable in public have no ‘reasonable expectation of privacy’ (District of Columbia v. Cleveland, 2014). No matter if underwear and intimate area were only visible from an unanticipated vantage point, that is your problem.

I personally admire law-makers and respect jurisprudence, the philosophy of law. However, such interpretation is narrow-minded and discriminatory, it is victim-shaming. Such a statement says: “Hey what is the fuss about? You are the one that started it, if you did not want your crotch area photographed you should not have worn a skirt”. This is institutionalized victimization and it is not acceptable in any civil and egalitarian society.

Forget voyeurism, so what about the violation of privacy and dignity? Apparently taking a picture up the skirt of a woman cannot be considered an misdemeanor if the victim is not aware of the offense in the first place and the image doesn’t allow the identification of a person (Italy 2015). Let me get this right: I had no perception of what they were doing to me so it didn’t happened, is that right? But it did happened. What if one of those panties was me? And I feel violated even if it was not me, because it could be me.

I wish I lived in a world where there is no need for a specific law against upskirting, a world where a woman does not have to worry about what she is wearing. Until then I am pleased and grateful to know that legislators around the world are making an effort to put a stop to such a mortifying offense

We need to update our legislations to modern technology that puts a camera in a portable phone and make it possible to take a picture up the skirt of a woman in a public and crowed place without anyone noticing. Most of all we should work strenuously to update our culture and perspective on women. We should educate people, especially young generations, that women are human beings and not just bodies, objects to increase sales or possess and disposed of as one wishes.

Sara is a registered General Practitioner in Italy and New Zealand. She is the founder and current lead of the newly established Equally Different group within the European Junior General Practitioners Organization, the Vasco da Gama Movement, branch of the World Organization of Family Doctors. Follow her on Twitter @rgn_sr.

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