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“Annoying immature pricks file”

October 20, 2013 By Contributor

I was with my son, aged 7 at the time, during this summer and we were at a local beauty spot only a few minutes walk from where we live. My son was down a small embankment next to a stream and I was standing at the top on the pathway watching him play and talking to him. There was a man, woman and small child sitting on a bench about 200 yards away to my right. I heard people talking to my left and glanced up. I registered 3 young guys aged about 25ish walking down the towards me with cans of beer in their hands. I registered them but truly this was all the attention my brain gave them and I turned back to my son to hear one of them say in a kinda sing-song voice…and I’m quoting, “Oh look they’re drinking and there’s children about, won’t stop me putting my dick in her mouth!” to which his mates started laughing.

I retorted by saying to him “Obviously no-one allows you to put your dick anywhere mate if you have to say that to random strangers.”

His mates then started the predictable “Woohoo.” My son by this point starting looking worried and asking me what they were saying as he could see I looked angry but I managed to calm down and the guys walked past. This was around 2 p.m. in the afternoon and we had already altered our walk because there was another group of young guys drinking at a particular spot, no doubt their friends. I felt angry, humiliated and vulnerable.

Do you have any suggestions for dealing with harassers and/or ending street harassment in general?

To be honest, at the time it happened and immediately thereafter, if I had had a baseball bat I would have set about the guy. That is how angry and outraged I was at the time, however, I’m not a violent person in any away and I basically just filed the incident away in my ‘annoying immature pricks’ file. Definitely something that could be addressed in schools more as I know our schools in Scotland promote as part of their curriculum, kids growing and becoming more responsible citizens. With regard to dealing with the here and now, it should fall under the umbrella of something like breach of the peace or even harassment or stalking law. Teaching kids how to act socially also begins at home and I’ll certainly be bringing my son up accordingly.

– Anne Clifford

Location: The Saltings, Old Kilpatrick, West Dunbartonshire, 60, Scotland

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USA: New Yorkers Share Their #Harassmentis Stories

October 20, 2013 By Correspondent

By: Maggie Freleng, NYC, USA, SSH Correspondent

HarassmentIs Chalking in NYC

“#Harassmentis being called a terrorist because I wear a Hijab,” one slogan said.

This was just one of dozens written in chalk on the pavement in Washington Square Park in New York for the #Harassmentis chalk walk hosted by Hollaback!, an international organization to end street harassment.

In an effort to raise awareness of how different people are affected by street harassment, Hollaback! launched their newest publication “#HarassmentIs: An exploration of identity and street harassment.”

Proceeding the launch, Hollaback! also hosted a tweetup on Twitter, encouraging people to share their experiences with street harassment.

In addition, the chalk walk  was also meant to inspire people to join the conversation around street harassment.

“Chalk walking is a way for people to get together to express their views in public spaces and engage with community,” Debjani Roy, deputy director of Hollaback! said.

She said the chalk walk was a way to promote the #harassmentis guide while engaging the community in the conversation and raising awareness about street harassment publically.

The #Harrassmentis guide is a way to further explore how harassment affects different people. The guide is a way to make stories that already existed on the Hollaback! blog accessible and presentable to everyone.

“We wanted to put the stories in terms that everyone can understand globally,” Roy said, who also noted they were particularly trying to reach a younger generation. .

About 30-35 people showed up on Friday to participate in the chalk walk. However, Roy said she was most impressed with how many bystanders joined in.

Most people were excited to join in after reading the statements and asking questions about what was going on.

Harassment is something many people can relate to no matter who you are: race, religion, gender, etc.

“#Harassmentis trying to walk like a man for fear of assault,” another slogan said.

The chalk walk was a success and on that beautiful day in a New York park, intersectionality, harassment and the consequences of harassment were shared with the world.

“It was very interactive,” Roy said. “People showed a lot of interest.”

If you weren’t in New York and want to share your experience, hashtag “Harassmentis” on Twitter and keep the conversation going.

Maggie is a Brooklyn based freelance writer and photographer focusing on social justice and women’s issues. She currently writes for Vitamin W. Maggie graduated with a B.A in Journalism and English from the University of Massachusetts, Amherst in 2011, concentrating on dystopian literature. You can read more of her writing on her blog or follow her on Twitter, @dixiy89.

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Simple Pickup REALLY Needs To Go: Breast Cancer Edition

October 18, 2013 By HKearl

A few weeks ago, SSH social media volunteer Julie Mastrine began a Change.org petition against Simple Pickup.

She wrote, “Simple Pickup is a YouTube channel that features three guys as they harass, sexualize and often downright grope women on the street, all in the name of “picking up girls” and “giving you tips to help guys like you, get laid,” according to the user description. Unfortunately, the channel has over a million subscribers, and the message it sends is clear: it’s totally okay to harass women on the street, sexualize them, make them uncomfortable, and touch them without their consent.”

The petition has 30,000 signatures and asks YouTube to take down this offensive channel. (Please sign!)

Today I found out that the guys at Simple Pickup have reached a new low… they filmed themselves “motorboating” random women on the street (they pressed a woman’s breasts together and shook their face back and forth between them, to make the sound of a motorboat) and then they tried to make this offensive act “better” by donating $20 per motorboat to the Breast Cancer Research Foundation. Once the Foundation learned about the origin of the funds, they refunded the donation, telling media:

“We appreciate efforts to raise money to advance breast cancer research, but out of respect for the community we serve, we have asked Simple Pickup to cease all references and associations to our organization and are refunding their donation immediately.”

Good for them. As Audra at the Daily Dot writes, “objectifying women was a disgraceful way to support the cause.”

I’m really alarmed that the Simple Pickup guys continue to make offensive videos that millions of people choose to watch. Sexually objectifying women, disrespecting them, and portraying street harassment as cool and okay is problematic, harmful and needs to end. I’m also disappointed in YouTube for continuing to host and support these videos.

Please, sign the petition, share the petition and tweet at @YouTube that this channel has to go!

H/T Renee at Collective Action for Safe Spaces

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Canada: Street Harassment in Ontario A Century Ago

October 18, 2013 By Correspondent

By: Lisane Thirsk, Ottawa, Canada, SSH Correspondent

Criminal Assize Indictment, Algoma District, 1916. Available at the Archives of Ontario.

After reading SSH blog posts earlier this month about the history of street harassment in the U.S. (book review, author interview, and 100 years of activism), I was inspired to dig up some research I did a couple years ago for my master’s degree. For one assignment I went to the Archives of Ontario and uncovered criminal case files about street harassment around the turn of the 20th century.

According to historians, this period was characterized by “moral panic” in Canada. Social anxiety surrounded immigration, urban growth, and women’s shifting roles in public life.

My search at the Archives was guided by Karen Dubinsky’s Improper Advances: Rape and Heterosexual Conflict in Ontario, 1880-1929. I recommend this book to anyone interested in the history of street harassment – particularly Chapter Two on “The Social and Spatial Settings of Sexual Violence” in rural and northern areas of the province.

The legal records cited in Dubinsky’s book, as well as those I examined on microfilm reels at the Archives, provide vast documentation of sexual violence committed by strangers outdoors.

In rural communities, rape and sexual assault were often reported by women who had been attacked while walking through isolated farm fields. On small-town roads, women more often reported offences such as being chased, insulted or grabbed.

Just like in the U.S., street harassment was known as “mashing” at that time, and it was viewed as undesirable behaviour. The records show that these assaults didn’t just occur at night or when women were walking alone.

Panic emerged in numerous communities in Ontario. Mashers were stereotypically imagined as strangers in berry patches, tramps from Montreal, taxi drivers, and Indigenous men.

One of the most infamous predatory figures was known as Jack the Hugger, the nickname of a serial sexual assaulter (or more likely, several assaulters) appearing in the records from 1894 to 1916.

When confronted by a street masher, women were quite often assertive and resourceful. They defended their right to the street with defiant words, an umbrella, or by slapping the perpetrator.

Meanwhile, the prevalence of street harassment led commentators, including judges, to call for harsher punishment in the name of women’s freedom of mobility. And it was not uncommon for women – at least those who show up in the archives as “respectable” – to successfully pursue justice through legal avenues.

In her book Dubinsky reveals that the willingness of authorities to hold mashers accountable was due in part to the growth of the labour movement in Ontario.

As it became more acceptable for single women to migrate to towns and cities for jobs, scrutiny shifted to young lower-class men harassing female factory workers. Men’s public idleness and aggression were seen as threats to the values of self-control, restraint and productivity.

Below are the basic facts from one of the case files from Sault Ste. Marie that I examined at the Archives. It included statements from the complainants, the accused, and witnesses; and it illustrates some of Dubinsky’s conclusions about mashing in early 20th century Ontario.

* Around 7:30 a.m. in July 1916, Robert E. began following Emma B., a young woman who lived at a boarding house and was on her way to work at a tailor’s shop. Emma had been alerted to the Jack-the-Hugger stories circulating in her community, so she turned onto a busier street. Robert caught up to her, grabbed her hip, and said, “You would make good fucking.” He ran away, but Emma caught up to him and told him to keep his hands off her and to mind his own business.

* A few days later, Robert assaulted Louise P. around 5:15 in the evening. In her deposition Louise reported, “a young man caught hold of me by the bre[a]st … He turned around and put his hands down the front of his pants … I asked him what the devil he meant, and I started to follow him up, and then he ran.”

* In September 1916, Robert was charged with two counts of Indecent Assault on a Female. His defence focused on him having been steadily employed at the Steel Plant.

When we look back on the history of sexual violence, we tend to assume one of two things.

We either believe that in “the good old days” women were more respected in public and harassment wasn’t as explicit. Emma and Louise’s stories, along with many others I encountered at the Archives of Ontario, would suggest otherwise.

Or else we believe that as a society we’ve come a long way from the prejudiced thinking of the past. By reading between the lines in documents like Robert E.’s indictment, Dubinsky shows that it wasn’t always women’s wellbeing or principles of social equality that guided the prosecution of street harassers.

If we look carefully at today’s responses to street harassment – legal or otherwise – we might find many of these same patterns playing out.

Lisane works in the non-profit communications sector and supports local anti-street harassment advocacy through Hollaback! Ottawa. In 2012, she completed a Master’s in Socio-Legal Studies at York University in Toronto, where she wrote her Major Research Paper on gender-based street harassment. She holds a B.A. in Latin American Studies and Spanish from the University of British Columbia.

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“something to look at but not much to see”

October 17, 2013 By Contributor

I. Shame
I want to teach myself to not feel sick with guilt
when I tell you to shut the fuck up, and
I wish I could take back the quiet “thank you”
I politely whisper when you won’t leave me alone
and I don’t know what else to say.

II. Anger
“Smileformeyoungladylookingsobeautiful, canyougiveasmileforme?”
it’s a command given in two breaths.
May it subtract two of your last inhalations
for every time you’ve said it to me, every time you’ve seen me.

III. Violence
If you think my ass is yours to grab,
then I think your eye sockets are a good place
for me to jab my middle fingers, and twist.
I don’t want you to see—even in your mind’s eye—
the things you say you’d do to me if you could take me home.

IV. Shame
I’m told I “should be flattered”
As if I’m incorrect to feel
uncomfortable, unsafe, and degraded.
As if I lack emotional agency, and it’s somehow up to others
to decide how to respond to my body
with no regard for my brain.

Erica Motz is a third-year student at UW-Madison.  You can talk with her about street harassment, street respect, gender performativity, music, or making weird art at this address: ericarosemotz AT gmail.com.

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