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Street harassers throw glass bottle, grope on the metro

January 4, 2012 By Contributor

I was talking a walk down the street with a girlfriend one afternoon and a truck with two men slowed down beside us. The passenger yelled out of the window, “Hey baby! Where are you going! Want to come with us?”

We ignored the men and kept walking. After about 30 seconds from when they initially accosted us, the passenger threw a glass bottle at us from the vehicle and shouted expletives before racing away.

Another time, on the metro in DC coming home from high school, I made the mistake of dozing in my seat. I awoke gradually to the feeling of the man sitting next to me groping my leg beneath my school uniform skirt. The train was extremely crowded and I wasn’t able change seats or even move to another area of the car. I was so scared and I didn’t know what to do. He got off the train several minutes later.

– Anonymous

Location: 10th St and Pennsylvania Ave SE, Washington, DC

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First street harassment experience of the year

January 3, 2012 By Contributor

I went to London for New Year’s Eve, and it was on the Tube going back to my friend’s student accommodation that I had my first street harassment experience of the year.

It was very busy, so we were all standing up and in close quarters to each other. I had seen a man to my left but I had ignored him in favour of taking my rucksack [backpack] off and holding onto the pole in the carriage to keep myself from falling over. I heard a voice from that area saying, “Happy New Year,” repeatedly, and I gave a non committal hum before ignoring him and facing my friend.

The talking at me continued, until he felt it was perfectly acceptable to rest his head on my shoulder while the train was moving. He kept on trying to get my attention by asking which stop I was getting off at, and I kept on ignoring him, as this is my preferred method of dealing with idiots trying to harass me.

As the train pulled into the next station, he upped his technique by grabbing my upper arm and squeezing it repeatedly and saying, “Hey, hey, look at me, where are you going? Where are you getting off?”

Honestly, it scared me. It was a very packed train, but no one could hear him as he was being so quiet. My heart pounded and my grip on my bag tightened, I was ready to swing it at him if he persisted, and I turned to him and replied with

“Home. Now leave me alone.”

He opened his mouth to say more, before my friend wheeled round and told him to back off before she punched him in the face. He stopped and we left the Tube two stations early in order to avoid travelling with him further.

I spent the rest of the trip home shaken and outraged, but also frightened in case he had followed us. He hadn’t appeared drunk like so many other revelers. Things could have been very different; instead of backing off he could have followed us. Fortunately he didn’t, but you always go through the “What if?” scenarios in your head.

– Anonymous

Location: London, England

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2011 Anti-Street Harassment Successes – Part 4

December 30, 2011 By HKearl

Reflecting on the number of people and organizations that worked hard to address and end street harassment is inspiring.  This end-of-year list is longer than last year’s list, and that’s a very good thing. Given the length, it’s divided into four posts.

Post 1: Significant successes overall and 8 SSH successes.

Post 2: New anti-street harassment campaigns.

Post 3: New creative anti-street harassment initiatives.

Post 4 (this one): People who stood up to harassers and spoke out about harassment/assault on the streets.

Standing Up, Speaking Out

These are just 20 of the many courageous individuals who did not stay silent in the face of harassment or assault on the streets. They inspire me, as I hope they’ll inspire you.

1. In Egypt, many women at Tahrir Square in Egypt faced sexual harassment and sexual assault, mostly at the hands of the military police. Two high-profile journalists Lara Logan and Mona Eltahawy were among the women sexually assaulted and they both bravely spoke out about their experiences to bring attention to what women face when simply participating in political activism alongside their male peers.

2. Naama Margolese is a second-grader living in Israel who faced sexual harassment from ultra-orthodox Jewish men on her way to school. They called her a “whore” because of the clothes she wore. She’s shared her experience and how it makes her feel on international television, sparking protests and new police attention to the matter of ultra-orthodox Jewish men harassing women.

3. On the ACLU’s blog Robyn Shepherd (USA) recounted how a man whacked her butt when she was walking to work one morning. She ran after him. When she caught up to him she demanded, “You think that shit is funny? You like hitting women, huh? You think that’s the correct way to act? Whatsamatterwithyou?” and he said, “Ma’am I don’t know what you’re talking about.” She retorted with, “”You know goddamn well what I’m talking about. YOU DON’T HIT WOMEN, ASSHOLE.” Robyn ended up calling the police and four officers came to help her though he was gone by the time they arrived. At the end of her story, she notes, “I know what happened to me could have been a lot, lot worse. But someone doesn’t have to be raped to be humiliated, violated and hurt. Sometimes, all it takes is a smack on the ass.”

4. 22-year old college student Shyane DeJesus attacked, berated, and snapped a cell phone picture of a man who groped her on a subway platform in New York City (USA). A few days later she picked him out of a line-up of suspects. She advises women, “Don’t let them scare you. They’re cowards.”

5. “You got great legs baby!” a 43-year-old man told Brittney, a 15-year-old girl, as she waited for the subway on her way to school (USA). In response, she said, “Excuse me, you probably have a daughter older than me.” Unconcerned by that thought he said, “Sorry you just look so sexy in that schoolgirl outfit I couldn’t help it and you do have great legs.” Undeterred, Brittney said, “Sexual harassment is a crime, leave me alone or I will report you,” and the harasser hurried away. At the end of her story she wrote, “I count that as a win for me because I hear things like that all the time and I finally stood up for myself and said something.”

6. In Jakarta, Indonesia, a man was arrested for sexual harassment after a rubbing against another passenger in a sexual way. Another passenger witnessed it and alerted everyone on the bus and the bus driver handed the man over to the police.

7. K. Wilkins in Ontario, Canada, was locking her bike up outside a bank and witnessed three men harass two women walking near them.  She said the women looked so uncomfortable and so she took a deep breath and yelled across the street, “You, stop harassing these women.”  The harassers booed her, but the young women thanked her. She said, “I witness, hear about, and am subjected to this bullshit daily. I am speaking out!!”

8. Luis Enrique Sossa Maltese, a 39-year-old carpenter, was sentenced to four years and six months in prison for groping a 25-year-old woman near Central Park and the Plaza of Social Guarantees in San Jose, Costa Rica. The survivor of this sexual assault came forward and reported him, she said, to seek justice and the ability to to walk through the streets without fearing he will assault her again.

9. RDH in Tennessee (USA) was walking home after dark and a car started creeping behind her. The driver lowered the car window and asked if he could “hollar” at her. RDH was scared, but she still stood up to him. She asked him how he would like it if his mother or sister was walking and some random stranger came creeping up behind them. She ended up getting an apology.

10. LH in Lyon, France, advised women to give harassers “an angry look, a loud ” no!” or just a hiss; every reaction helps. They will never understand if we don’t express ourselves.”

11. After years of street harassment experiences, when a man groped Kate Spencer on a subway platform in New York City (USA), she wrote, “Without thinking I turned around and hit him as hard as I possibly could. I didn’t even stop walking, nor did I say anything. I did turn around to look at him as I hit him, and his face was one of shock but not of surprise. He knew why I had hit him; he just couldn’t believe he hadn’t gotten away with it.”

12. Noticing a group of construction workers harassing women passing by, a man in Sydney, Australia, took out his cell phone and pretended to film them with it. When the men noticed what he was doing, they scattered and stopped bothering passersby.

13. Two construction workers in the United Kingdom were suspended from work for harassing a woman walking by their work site at Fish Hill Square. After the husband of a harassed woman issued a complaint, the managing director Thomas O’Mahony said, ‘We acted within half-an-hour of being alerted to the complaint. It’s company policy to immediately suspend anyone who is made the subject of a complaint by the public. ‘We don’t tolerate wolf-whistling or any form of sexual harassment. It’s unacceptable – we are in the public eye and our image is important.”

14. Jane was tired of construction workers congregating on her street leering at women walking by. She emailed the construction company and after that the men no longer stood around on the street leering at women.

15. Anonymous in Washington, D.C. (USA), said, “Stop harassing women” to a man who was harassing every woman walking by him as he stood outside Union Station. Her directive silenced him.

16. Two male university students in Delhi, India, stopped a group of street harassers from bothering a female student simply by joining her as she was walking and chatting with her about classes. The harassers quickly left her alone once she was no longer alone and an easy target.

17. After facing lots of harassment from construction workers near her house, a woman in Sydney, Australia, wrote a letter of complaint to the development company. Two days later, when the foreman saw her, he politely let her know that he would speak to the men and that if the harassment happened again to seek him out or contact the company again.

18. Anne was at a McDonald’s in Vermont (USA) with a friend when she noticed a young man two tables over was leering at them. Then she noticed he was masturbating. She said, “Stop that right now! That is not okay!” He denied doing anything so she notified the manager on duty, and called the police.

19. Tired of dealing with street harassers, anonymous in North Carolina (USA) decided to retort back when a man sitting on a bench outside the library told her she was “So Beautiful.” She turned and looked into his eyes and told him, “You’re not.” She wrote, “Commenting on a strange woman’s physical appearance is rude and insensitive – it is ugly. I don’t care if people look at me, but no one has the right to speak to me, touch me or approach me.”

20. Allison in Massachusetts (USA) confronted a street harasser for the first time. A man said, “Smile beautiful,” as she waited for a bus. After freezing initially, she followed him and said, “Just so you know, it doesn’t make women feel good when you tell them to smile. Sometimes people have shitty days and they don’t feel like smiling. It’s offensive to just tell them to smile.”  He apologized.

 

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“Planet Fitness members and guests DESERVE BETTER”

December 29, 2011 By Contributor

So an update on the whole Planet Fitness harassment incident in Illinois—but first the recap:

On Dec. 4, I was a first time guest of the Elmwood Park, IL Planet Fitness where I became the victim of sexual harassment! My photo was taken by a pervert, now identified as Peter Demopoulos of Elmwood Park, with a flash film camera! While sneaking and hiding behind the building’s columns no less!

After alerting staff, Mr. Demopoulos ran to the locker room and hid the film camera. Upon re-entering the gym area, he spoke to staff claiming only the use of a cell phone camera to take photos of the facility. They did not confiscate either device and did not kick him out—even though you CAN be kicked out for slamming down weights while you work-out. Or breathing too hard. Yes, I’m serious…as seen in the news story here.

Here’s the Update: It took FIVE calls with management to have his membership pulled from the Elmwood location. But I wanted to make sure that this couldn’t happen to anyone else or myself again! So I asked for Mr. Demopoulos to be banned from any location within 25 miles, for Planet Fitness to form a zero tolerance harassment policy and train their staff on it, to be notified of disciplinary action taken against employees that did not kick out the offender, and to be allowed access to the video footage they had of the incident.

The VP of Operations (corporate), Bill Mulleady banned him from the other locations—and ignored all my other requests—even though over the phone he said someone should ‘definitely be disciplined or fired’ and that he would give me a copy of their current harassment policy and check on the video tapes. After DAYS of hearing nothing, I emailed him and he said he would call on Dec 19th—which came and went. When I sent an email blasting them for ignoring me—he said my requests were ‘unreasonable’!

This to me says they do not really have a harassment policy, and that there is something on those tapes they do not want me to see! I’m currently trying to contact major news outlets and seeing if I can get my hands on a lawyer that can request the videos! THEY DO NOT CARE ABOUT THE WELL-BEING OF THEIR MEMBERS OR GUESTS AND ARE HIDING SOMETHING!

I REFUSE to be scared or intimidated. And I REFUSE to stand by businesses that are supposed to protect me ALLOW me to be scared or intimidated. And I won’t let them allow anyone else to feel that way either. Planet Fitness members and guests DESERVE BETTER.

– Earth Angel

Location: Elmwood Park, Ilinois

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“Why you teasing me like that?”

December 27, 2011 By Contributor

I was walking to a CVS in my neighborhood and walked past a man who looked unkempt and was leaning on a railing next to the store. I avoided eye contact and as I walked towards him he yelled, “Why you teasing me like that?” “Why you teasing me like that?” And he shook his entire body (like he was cold) to illustrate his point. Mind you, I was wearing a black winter coat, a sweatshirt, and jeans. This man just wanted to harass me for no reason.

I just ignored him and did not respond. Minutes later when I exited the store, I went the opposite way from which I had came in order to avoid the man. Even then, I knew he was waiting for me to come out, because he called to me even as I was walking in the opposite direction.

I was so frustrated that I went online looking for ways to deal to street harassment and I found this website. I’ve been street harassed numerous times and I’m never quite sure how to respond for fear that the person might retaliate. However after reading some stories on the site, I’ll try to use some of the suggestions I saw on here.

No woman deserves to be harassed under any circumstance.

– Anonymous

Location: 4555 Wisconsin Avenue NW Washington, DC 20016

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