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“I remember feeling shameful”

September 2, 2014 By Contributor

My father had just retired from the Air Force and we had moved off base.  This meant I had to walk from my house to the train station, then take the train to the stop right outside of Yokota AFB.

I was fifteen.  I took the same route every day.  Then one morning, a little after six, a man stepped out a bit ways ahead of me..  He stood on the side of the road.  I could see that his pants were down.  And he began to masturbate profusely

I looked away quickly, but I had to walk past him to get to where I was going.  So I did quickly, trying my best to ignore the movements he was making, scared that he would come and it would land on me.  But somehow, I made it through.

I’ve never told anyone this story.  I remember feeling shameful, like I had done something wrong to bring this on me.

– Anonymous

Location: Japan

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Billboards against Rape Culture in Lancaster, PA

September 1, 2014 By HKearl

Photo by Mark Hutchens

UPDATED: Here is the Ms Magazine article about the billboards. It was syndicated on Care2’s site.

Yesterday I had the privilege to meet Ray and Adele, the co-directors of hu_MAN Up, in Lancaster, PA. They’ve been involved in a number of efforts to challenge rape culture with their latest being three electronic billboard messages near the Franklin & Marshall campus. This is the one about street harassment. They’re determined to not just preach to the choir when it comes to these kinds of messages and hope that their billboard messages are reaching a lot of people who may not otherwise hear about rape culture or the need for consent and respect.

I’m writing an article about their billboards for Ms Magazine’s blog this week, so stay tuned.

They just received their 501c3 status and are fundraising to be able to do ads on buses and more billboard messages. Donate if you can!

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USA: Decreasing harassment and increasing resiliency

September 1, 2014 By Correspondent

Kirstin Kelly, Monterey, California, USA, SSH Blog Correspondent

About a month ago, University of Tennessee researchers Dawn Syzmanski and Chandra Feltman published an article entitled “Helping Women Overcome the Anguish of Unwanted Sexual Advances.” The article professes that women who experience street harassment fall into two major categories: those who are resilient and those who are not. Immediately after publication, Syzmanski and Feltman faced backlash from people who felt the article was supporting victim-blaming mentalities by suggesting that people who are more resilient are better able to cope with the stress of unwanted sexual advances than people who are not.

Normally, I agree with people who caution against products or research that could perpetuate victim blaming because I, like most others, believe that pressuring those engaged in harassing behaviors is far more important than teaching would-be-victims to avoid responsibility. I fully agree that the onus of responsibility should be on the aggressors, not their victims. But this study is fundamentally different to me.

First, the idea of resiliency is widely accepted among psychologists as a way of understanding why certain people respond to stressors by using them as springboards while others experience overwhelming negativity as a result of the same type of occurrence.

Second, victim blaming usually refers to advice or products to help would-be-victims avoid situations that might lead to harassment or even assault. These are obviously problematic because they place the onus of responsibility on the victims to avoid situations in the first place, but ignore the reality that harassment and assault can happen to anyone at any time in any place under any circumstances.

Resiliency could be a useful tool in helping to combat the effects of street harassment because it helps survivors heal from trauma, which could include unwanted sexual advances, but it is victim blaming to suggest that people who lack resiliency will have a harder time. Similarly, since resiliency can be helpful in healing from a number of different traumas, it is not asking potential victims to alter their behavior in order to avoid negative situations.

There is nothing victims can do to keep themselves completely safe, but aggressors have the ability to stop their behavior. Social pressure definitely needs to be placed on the aggressors to stop the behavior, but in the meantime, research that helps us understand how victims can recover from their experiences is valuable. I think it’s helpful to encourage people to increase their resiliency regardless of their perceived susceptibility to aggressive behavior. Likewise, I think aggressors should be discouraged from continuing together.

Perhaps these two approaches work best when combined as a holistic approach to addressing rape culture and street harassment.

Kirstin is a Master’s Student in Nonproliferation and Terrorism Studies at the Monterey Institute of International Studies and a news editor at the Women’s International Perspective (The WIP). You can follower her on Twitter at @KirstinKelley1, where she regularly posts about human rights issues around the world.

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When Street Harassers Put You in a Hospital

August 31, 2014 By HKearl

“‘At Notting Hill Carnival yesterday a man in the crowd grabbed my arse. When I told him not to he did it again. I pushed him away, exercising my right to tell a man to stop touching my body without my permission, so he took a swing at me and punched me in the face…

A woman should be able to leave the house without fear of being sexually assaulted. And she should be able to defend herself without being put in hospital.” – Mary Brandon in the UK.

She was in the hospital for 9 hours after the attack. Read more here.

One of the many reasons why we need to pay attention to street harassment and not just dismiss it as a compliment, no big deal, or, as Fox News recently said, “let men be men” is that it can escalate into something worse. Particularly if the men don’t like women’s responses to their harassment.

I saw this when I conducted focus groups for the SSH national study. For example, in Brooklyn two women shared scary retaliation stories. One said, “I’ve seen a guy knock a girl’s head into a brick wall that she was leaning on behind them because she did not want to talk to him. She was gushing blood. It’s unacceptable.” Another woman said, “My cousin’s friend got shot in the back as she walked away because she didn’t want to talk to the guy.”

We saw this recently too when a man in Philadelphia told harassers to watch what they were saying to the women and one got out of his vehicle and punched him. He hit his head on concrete and went unconscious and had to be hospitalized.

It’s past time to start taking this seriously.

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“I was beginning to panic”

August 31, 2014 By Contributor

I was waiting for the tram and I notice a 60-year-old man in the nearby staring at me. He made me feel very uncomfortable and I walked away from him and continued waiting. The guy continued staring at me with fixed eyes, and then came to me. He placed himself right in front of me, less than half a meter away and stared me from head to feet stopping at my breasts and legs.

I was beginning to panic, so I reached for my cell phone and called. At that moment the guy went away from the tram station.

Optional: Do you have any suggestions for dealing with harassers and/or ending street harassment in general?

Education: many people (both men and women) think that is not a problem to look at or even to say something “nice” to a woman you don’t know at all, when she’s just minding her own business. Some people even consider it a nice thing to do, because they are “complimenting” you. I wonder how would they feel if they were given back an assessment of their own physicality.

– Anonymous

Location: Leipzig, Germany

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