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“Calling a stranger slim is not an appropriate comment”

January 1, 2014 By Contributor

Someone just tried to pick me up in the grocery store by smiling and saying, “Excuse me, you’ll probably laugh at me, but you’re slim and attractive and I was wondering if it would be possible to get a date with you,” and when I smiled back and said, “No thank you,” he said, “Sorry I don’t have white skin” and walked away quickly. Too quickly for me to have responded, and even so, I’m not sure what I would have said.

Do I just chalk this up to a wounded society that contains wounded people and carry on? Was he on some sort of misguided consciousness-raising mission? Should I have said, “Calling a stranger slim is not an appropriate comment, and also no, thank you”?

Honestly, before he finished his sentence I thought he was mentioning slim as a strange lead-in to asking me for help with vegetables, as we were in the produce aisle.

– Anonymous

Location: Whole Foods on Prospect Street in Cambridge, MA

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2013: 15 Important Efforts to Stop Street Harassment

December 30, 2013 By HKearl

Since writing my master’s thesis on street harassment in 2007, I’ve been documenting the anti-street harassment movement. Since 2010, I’ve spent time at the end of each December reviewing the year as it relates to street harassment. In 2012, it was a 5 part series, in 2011, a 4 part series, because so much had happened!

This year, a ton happened, too. I can hardly believe how mainstream the issue is becoming, especially compared to just a few years ago when I started this blog. It’s incredible and very encouraging. In fact,  it’s growing so much that a team at the University of Bristol began a research project on anti-street harassment activism campaigns this year to chart how the movement has spread/is spreading. They will give us recommendations on what works best.

This post focuses on 15 of the many efforts that happened in 2013 to stop street harassment. On the SSH blog, you can also find:

* Our 10 successes in 2013
* 16 memorable stories about people who stood up to street harassers this year
* 30 new resources

15 Efforts:

1. India Responded to the Delhi Gang Rape

While the horrendous Delhi Gang Rape occurred in late December 2012, the outrage and campaigns to address sexual violence were in full force in January and continued throughout 2013. For example:

* Starting January 1, Blank Noise hosted a #SafeCityPledge Tweet Chat on January 19 and held several in-person events where people stood in public places holding signs with their pledges.
* Thousands of women marched in Delhi on January 2, calling for an end to sexual violence.
* 100 men in their 20s gathered in skirts in India in mid-January to challenge victim-blaming of women. They said, “I promise that I will be sensitive to gender issues in the way I speak and act. I promise not to be passive. I will step in if I hear offensive speech or views.”
* In March, a group of male bikers issued public apologies to “Delhi women” on behalf of “Delhi men.”
* On March 8, Breakthrough  held a #RingTheBell Tweet Chat about preventing sexual violence.
* In April, the smartphone safety app Circle of 6 launched a version localized to Delhi.

A year later, here are the outcomes of the outrage and campaigns in India, especially in Delhi.

2. Everyday Sexism was #ShoutingBack against Street Harassment and Facebook

Laura Bates began the Everyday Sexism website and Twitter account in 2012, but it grew enormously in 2013. The Twitter account has over 100,000 followers and in December 2013, the site received the 50,000th message about “everyday sexism” that women experience. Based in the UK, during summer 2013, Everyday Sexism expanded to 16 other countries, all run by local volunteers.

A significant percentage of the messages and stories women submit address street harassment, regularly bringing more attention to the issue. Everyday Sexism has hosted several Tweet Chats specifically on the topic of street harassment, including the #ShoutingBack chat. The chat began January 8, 2013, and lasted several days as thousands of stories of vile and scary street harassment poured over Twitter. In March, they held another chat about being #followed in public spaces.

ALSO: Everyday Sexism joined forces with Women, Action & the Media and writer/activist (and SSH ally) Soraya Chemlay to challenge the pro-rape pages on Facebook that Facebook admins refused to take down. Their campaign succeeded in May – Facebook revised its policy – and SSH was a proud supporter of the campaign.

3. There was #Outcry in Germany against Sexual Harassment

In late January, Mr. Brüderle of the FDP (Liberals in Germany) harassed a journalist (Laura Himmelreich). She wrote about it and some people blamed her and told her that she shouldn’t make a big deal about the sexual harassment. Many German women disagreed and turned her personal problem into a political statement. Anne Wizorek began using the hashtag #Aufschrei (#Outcry) on Twitter and within 48 hours there were 30,000 Tweets from women sharing stories of sexual harassment, including street harassment.

4. Egyptian Activists Entered “Circles of Hell” to Protect Women

Members of @TahrirBodyGuard, via their Twitter account

On January 25, 2013, during the protest to mark the two-year anniversary of the revolution in Egypt, and during other political protests that took place at Tahrir Square throughout 2013, some men routinely sexually harassed, assaulted and raped women. Many perpetrators used a tactic dubbed “the circle of hell,” where the men organize ahead of time and go into the crowds to find a woman or two alone, form a circle around her and work together to take off her clothes and assault her.

At the end of 2012, Op Anti-Sexual Harassment/Assault, a collective of anti-harassment groups like HarassMap, formed, and throughout 2013, their volunteer members worked hard to protect women protesters from attackers. (Read a first-hand account from a volunteer.) They also catalogued and reported on the attacks that occurred during protests to make sure they were recognized and not ignored.

5. 58 Cities Took Concrete Action for Women’s Safety

What concrete actions can grassroots groups take to make their cities safer for women and girls?  The Huairou Commission posed this question in early 2013 when they launched a campaign called Delhi and Beyond: Concrete Actions for Safer Cities. During a global day of action on February 19, 2013, 66 groups in 26 countries joined the Huairou Commission’s campaign and answered that question.

The groups held meetings with public officials in 58 cities—from Cordoba, Argentina, to Edinburgh, UK—to discuss their ideas for localized strategies and to sign agreements to work together to address gender violence. Here is what SSH did in Washington, D.C.

“Showing women not as victims only, but as agents of development able to transform a conflict into a political agenda,” was one campaign goal, says Carolina Pinheiro, the Huairou Commission’s Governance Campaign Coordinator, and it was achieved.

6. The United Nations Addressed Women’s Safety in Public Spaces

The United Nations has done a lot this year to address sexual harassment and violence in public spaces!

“Whether walking city streets, using public transport, going to school, or selling goods at the market, women and girls are subject to the threat of sexual harassment and violence. This reality of daily life limits women’s freedom to get an education, to work, to participate in politics – or to simply enjoy their own neighbourhoods,” wrote the former executive director of UN Women and former president of Chile, Michele Bachelet in February.

Each March, the UN holds a Commission on the Status of Women (CSW). In March 2013, CSW focused on eliminating and preventing violence against women and girls. Several sessions during CSW addressed street harassment, including a session that gave a campaign update on the Safe Cities Free of Violence against Women and Girls Global Programme that began in 2010. Most important, for the first time ever, the UN included several clauses about sexual harassment in public spaces in its Agreed Conclusions, signaling a shift in how this issue is viewed and its level of importance.

In the spring, Microsoft became the UN’s first private sector partner on the Safe Cities Programme. Since then, UN Women has been undertaking investigations in India, Rio and Marrakesh to determine the potential use of mobile phones for prevention, documentation, and response to violence against women and girls in cities. The outcomes will inform future products by Microsoft for use by groups like UN Women. (Full disclosure: I am a paid consultant on this project)

On the 25th of every month, the UNiTE to End Violence against Women campaign focuses on different types of violence against women and girls through online awareness-raising and many activist groups hold events in their communities. In October, they focused on harassment and violence in public places and how people can make those spaces safer for women and girls and many groups took action around the world.

March against street harassment in Nepal

7. 150 Groups Worked to #EndSH

SSH’s Meet Us on the Street: International Anti-Street Harassment Week was larger than ever in 2013. From April 7-13, around 150 groups in 22 countries held rallies, sidewalk chalking parties, events, and online campaigns to bring attention to street harassment. Five successful tweet chats and dozens of articles in the media brought further focus to the issue. In New York City, city council members and Scott Stringer, the Manhattan Borough President, joined activists and street harassment survivors in speaking out against the issue at a rally. Read the report.

8. Several Transit Campaigns Launched or Expanded

Numerous cities tackled sexual harassment on their transit systems, including:

* Boston: The first transit agency in the USA to address sexual harassment, MBTA continued to be a leader on the issue with the release of a new wave of ads in April, including several where men were the victims/survivors of harassment.

* London: The British Transit Police worked with local activist groups to launch a Project Guardian campaign in July, #ProjGuardian. The Guardian newspaper reported: “In the first initiative of its kind of this size, all 2,000 officers who police the city’s public transport network – including the underground, overground trains and the buses – have been trained to deal with sexual offences. Up to 180 officers at a time are to be deployed at stations as part of Project Guardian.”

* Ottawa: Throughout the year, Hollaback! Ottawa held public forums, conducted a survey, and did a lot of media interviews to pressure their transit system to address harassment. The transit system continues to be reluctant to adequately address the issue.

* Philadelphia: Hollaback! Philly fundraised and designed several posters for SEPTA that went up for International Anti-Street Harassment Week. The ads sparked a lot of in person conversations and online media coverage.

* Vancouver: In October, two Simon Fraser University classmates launched a website (Harassment on TransLink) to share stories of harassment from public-transit riders across Metro Vancouver for a school project. The site received more than a dozen submissions in its first day, and stories of “aggressive” and “scary” behaviour continue to come in to translink.harassment@gmail.com.

* Washington, D.C.: WMATA continued to expand its campaign by designing and testing trainings for all front line employees so they will know how to respond to reports of sexual harassment. Around 4,000 employees will be trained in 2014.

9. Egyptian Activists Held Campaigns for Harassment-Free Holidays

Volunteers of the August campaign

In addition to protests, Eid is another time when a lot of sexual harassment and assault happens in Egypt. In August, the Imprint Movement and Op Anti-Sexual Harassment/Assault launched a campaign called “Eid without Harassment” on Talaat Harb Square. They had three teams: patrolling, awareness, and operations. They spoke and interacted with bystanders about the importance of rejecting this crime and rejecting violence. Their achievements:

* The prevention of 65 individual (verbal and physical) sexual harassment incidents
* The prevention of five mass harassment incidents.
* Two reports filed at the Tahrir police station.
* 70 people volunteered

In October over Eid, “I Saw Harassment” campaign volunteers did intervention, rescue, and awareness-raising work in downtown Cairo from noon until 10 p.m. each day of the holiday. Across the four days, they stopped 65 incidents.

10. Summits and Working Groups

Street Harassment Summit, via GGE

There are so many anti-street harassment groups now that I can’t list all of there important events, but here are three that especially caught my attention this year:

* Brooklyn Movement Center began holding regular working groups to discuss the problems of & solutions to street harassment in their community.

* Girls for Gender Equity and other members of the Coalition for Gender Equity in Schools (CGES) held a Youth Summit on Street Harassment on March 25, 2013 at the Urban Assembly Institute for 100 students who participated in a range of workshops about street harassment.

* Hollaback! held Holla: Rev, the first-ever international speakers series on ending street harassment.

11. Michaela Cross’s CNN iReport Broke a Record

Michaela Cross via CNN iReport

In August, white American Michaela Cross, a University of Chicago student, wrote a CNN iReport about the relentless street harassment she faced while studying abroad in India and the negative impact it continues to have on her life. It sparked huge debate online about many topics – including street harassment – and became the most viewed iReport of all time. It also prompted CNN to create a whole section on their site dedicated to street harassment and sexual violence stories! 160 people filed iReports there.

12. Stop Telling Women to Smile Art Raised Awareness

While artist Tatyana Fazlalizadeh started her Stop Telling Women to Smile public art initiative in 2012, it expanded significantly in 2013. She held an art show during Anti-Street Harassment Week and, over the summer, she had a successful Kickstarter campaign in the summer (she raised nearly $20k over her $15k goal) and spent the fall traveling to cities across the country to hear women’s street harassment stories and make public art specific to their community. Her art has been featured in many major media outlets, sparking countless online debates, and has brought tremendous attention to the issue.

13. Organizations Promoted Harassment-Free Cycling

We Will Ride Bicycles, Oct. 12, 2013 Event

In late 2013, groups in Egypt, India, and the USA held events focused on women, cycling and street harassment.

* Egypt: “We Will Ride Bicycles” aims to confront street harassment. October was their first event and women and their male allies rode bicycles around Cairo! “The activists behind the campaign said they chose the theme of riding bicycles to promote women and girl’s rights to run errands through cycling without being afraid of attracting negative reaction in the streets.”

Cycling Protest – Via SpinLife India’s FB Page

* India: In October, after men attacked a popular comedian and cyclist in Delhi, activists organized a “Take Delhi Back” event. At least 300 people cycled from India Gate to the Biodiversity Park to protest street harassment.

* USA: Collective Action for Safe Spaces held a 19th Amendment Alleycat in October with nearly 200 participants. An all-women scavenger-style bike race benefited CASS and gave women an empowering and safe way to cycle throughout the city. In November, they teamed up with the Washington Area Bicyclist Association to hold a workshop on street harassment and cycling.

Washington, D.C. cyclists – via CASS

14. Philadelphia Held the Second-Ever City Council Hearing on Street Harassment

Hollaback! Philly director Rochelle Keyhan

In November, the second-ever city council hearing on street harassment was held in Philadelphia, PA (the first was held in 2010 in New York City). This hearing came about because Council Member James Kenney read tweets by Hollaback! Philly about street harassment, researched the issue and he decided he wanted to address it. When he reached out to Hollaback! Philly over Twitter to ask what he could do, Hollaback! Philly’s director Rochelle Keyhan requested a city council hearing. Nine people testified and the four male city council members who listened were very sympathetic and strongly against the issue. This is HUGE progress. After the hearing, Council Member Kenney met with us and assured us this was not a “one and done day,” but that he was committed to working with Hollaback! Philly and other groups to address the issue.

15. SSH Let People Know Their Legal Rights

Many forms of street harassment are illegal in the United States, and you can report them to the police, even if you do not have a strong physical description of the person.

We believe there is no “best” way to deal with street harassment, since every situation and every person differs, SSH released a state-by-state guide. Even if you don’t choose to report harassers to the police (there are many valid reasons why someone may not want to), having the ability to tell a harasser his/her actions are illegal may diffuse the situation, as can asking a police officer to tell a harasser to clear out from an area (without issuing an arrest).

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2013: 30 New Resources

December 30, 2013 By HKearl

Not only were there important efforts to stop street harassment and memorable stories from individuals who stopped street harassers, but there were also many new resources!

Here are 30 of them:

1. A new study by the European Union Agency for Fundamental Rights (FRA) shed light on the levels of discrimination faced by LGBT members of the EU community, with important findings related to how this demographic experiences street harassment.

2. “Put Yourself in Her Shoes” PSA from UN Women’s Egyptian office.

3. A PSA from Whistling Woods International, a film school in India, that forces men to consider how creeping and inappropriate their leering is. No one is entitled to another person’s body!

4. “Conceptual understandings and prevalence of sexual harassment and street harassment,” a new publication by Bianca Fileborn, a Research Officer with ACSSA at the Australian Institute of Family Studies.

5. The Brooklyn Movement Center‘s “Street Harassment Spectrum” chart.

6. Estelle Freedman’s book Redefining Rape: Sexual Violence in the Era of Suffrage and Segregation, which includes a chapter about street harassment from around 1880-1920.

7. The Fight Harassment 101 (FH101) workshop curriculum – It allows you to host your own workshop about harassment and the use of self-defense.

8. The Don’t Harass Me, Bro and Design Action Collective campaigns. You can order stickers form the first group or download them from the second and then post them around your town to bring attention to street harassment.

9. Hollaback!’s updated smartphone app that allows people in New York City to “upload, in real time, information about where they experienced harassment on the street. It creates a map of pinned locations where harassment occurs, providing near-instant feedback to the city council’s and mayor’s offices. The app collects demographic data, too, to help officials better understand the details of where harassment occurs and who it happens to.”

10. Sex educator Laci Green’s video about street harassment.Funny and informative.

11. Miri’s article about why you shouldn’t tell that random woman on the street she’s hot (lots of great talking points).

12. Our social media volunteer Julie Mastrine’s infographic about street harassment.

13. A video interview from Quiet Lunch Magazine with artist Tatyana Fazlalizadeh, the person behind the amazing “Stop Telling Women to Smile” project. You can bring her art work to your community!

14. “Do Not Trust My Silence,” a powerful short film about street harassment in Afghanistan (English subtitles), directed by Afghan filmmaker Sahar Fetrat. She won the first prize in Italy’s “Universocorto Elba Film Festival” for her “extreme courage of reporting the Afghan women’s condition in the streets of Kabul and for the technique of shooting with a hidden camera.”

15 The Talk 2 Q radio show segment on street harassment that gives a lot of good talking points for addressing this issue with men, especially men of color.

16. A list of 5 resources for talking with boys about sexual violence, including street harassment.

17. Jarrah O’Neill’s senior thesis for Princeton University examining the policy frameworks that sustain street harassment.

18. The University of Southern California college students’ video about street harassment, which focuses on why it’s a serious problem.

19. Kelly Gallagher’s video “I AM THE MACE,” which is about identifying herself as a weapon against street harassment.

20. Virginia high school student Julia Romero’s song about street harassment.

21. Kara Lieff‘s video “Meet Us on the Subway” about Philadelphia’s International Anti-Street Harassment Week campaign. Check out Part 1 & Part 2.

22. A new billboard-based anti-street harassment campaign in Libya.

23. Qahera, a veiled superhero who addresses issues like street harassment in Egypt, created by Deena, an Egyptian artist.

24. The report “‘It’s Dangerous to be the First’: Security Barriers to Women’s Public Participation in Egypt, Libya, and Yemen,” which includes a portion about street harassment.

25. Hollaback! Philly‘s 24-page comic book, called Hollaback: Red, Yellow, Blue, written and drawn by Erin Filson (one of the current leaders of HollabackPHILLY, along with Rochelle Keyhan and Anna Kegler) and features characters who deal with street harassment.

26. Alyson Macdonald’s Internet game that allows people to see what life is like for many women when they walk outside.

27. Amy West’s video that provides viewers with “a two minute glimpse of something that happens literally every day. I hope this inspires open dialogue about the culturally accepted ways women are treated and the real consequences of those actions.”

28. SSH’s toolkit Know Your Rights: Street Harassment and the Law

29. A list of companies whose products or ads support street harassment – find out how you can take action to stop them & suggest your own campaigns.

30. My new book 50 Stories about Stopping Street Harassers, easy to read, accessible, and empowering.

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2013: 16 Memorable Stories about Stopping Street Harassers

December 30, 2013 By HKearl

I wrote this for the Pixel Project in early December and am cross-posting it here.

Image by Amy & Julie Mastrine

Empowering Response #1:  When a man began openly staring at EM’s friend’s breasts, she said really loudly to him as they passed him on the New Jersey street, “You should look where you’re going or you might fall.” He looked at her and she repeated, “Look where you’re walking.” Her friend laughed and he looked embarrassed.

Empowering Response #2: Photographer and Yale School of Art MFA student Hannah Price made international news this year with her series of stunning photos of the men who harassed her on the streets of Philadelphia, turning the lens and attention on them instead of her.

Empowering Response #3: Phillip in San Francisco, California, observed a man harassing every woman in the area. A few construction workers suggested the man stop, but he didn’t. So Philip got in his space and began making remarks about that man’s body and returned his misogyny. He said the harasser took off, almost running, while the construction workers high-fived Philip!

Empowering Response #4: Penelope lives in Sydney, Australia, and when construction for a new apartment building began next to where she lived, the constant harassment by the workers made her feel ill. She tried lots of tactics to avoid harassment but finally, she wrote a letter to the development company. It worked. She said, “I was stopped by the foreman and he politely let me know that he spoke to the men and have them stop the harassment and that if it happens again to seek him out or contact the company again.”

Empowering Response #5: Nayana was walking down a very busy road in Delhi, India. Suddenly, she felt a man “feeling up her front” with his hand. She said she was shocked! When she saw him smirking because he felt he was going to get away it, she grabbed hold of his collar and screamed at the top of her voice, “Police! Police! Help!” People gathered around her to help. The police arrived and she reported him. He ended up spending the night in jail.

Empowering Response #6: A woman was at the Metro in Virginia when she saw two guards harassing another woman. That woman cringed and walked quickly away. One of the guards then told the woman who observed it, “Let me see a SMILE on that pretty face.” She made eye contact and told him firmly, “Mind your business.” He giggled nervously and shut up.

Empowering Response #7: One day Irem was riding a city bus with her sister in Izmir, Turkey. A man would not stop staring at them. She stared back to try to make him feel uncomfortable and stop, but he just kept staring. So then Irem stood up and said to him, “Do you know us from somewhere else because you’ve been looking at us for ten minutes.” She said he was very embarrassed and that the other passengers, especially the women, laughed at him. He looked down at the floor for the rest of the ride.

Empowering Response #8: Emily pulled up beside a pickup truck at a traffic light in Sarasota, Florida. Her windows were rolled down and the two men in the truck whistled at her, laughing. She turned off her radio, turned to them and said, “You know, it’s really offensive when men whistle at a woman like she’s an animal. I don’t appreciate that. What you’re doing is called street harassment and it is unacceptable.” The driver apologized saying, “I’m sorry, ma’am. I’ll stop tonight.”

Empowering Response #9: A woman was harassed by a man in an SUV while she wanted to cross the street in Minnesota, and then he drove away before she could respond, she wrote an open letter to him in the “Missed Connections” section of Craigstlist.com. Her amazing letter was shared all over the Internet and it ended with this good advice: “If you really find a woman beautiful, don’t choose the juvenile selfish route that makes her feel weird and you look like an asshole. Just take a deep breath, commit the image to memory, and get on with your life. Or, if it’s really that great of an ass that you can’t possibly survive without commenting on it, post about it on CL missed connections after the fact and let her decide what to do about it.”

Empowering Response #10: Sarah was visiting a friend in Buffalo, New York. As she walked through a parking garage to meet her friend, two men sitting in a truck rolled down their windows and shouted inappropriate sexual remarks at her. She turned around and walked up to the window, looked them both in the eye and calmly said, “I just wanted to let you know it is really rude to shout at someone like that, and most women do not appreciate it.” They apologized to her and said they were just trying to be nice and say hi. She told them how that behavior can be perceived as threatening. She says she “walked away feeling so positive and empowered, and I hope what I said had some impact on those men and their future behavior.”

Empowering Response #11: Robyn lives in Portland, Oregon. She was walking home from the grocery store with her seven-year-old stepson and her infant daughter when a man slowed down in his car to talk to her through his window. She felt hesitant to confront him with her kids there.  Instead of driving away, the man followed and then paced his car alongside her and her kids. “How are you doing?” he asked. She stopped and said, “I’d be a whole lot better if you weren’t doing this.” He said, “I understand,” and drove away.

Empowering Response #12: A woman in Harrogate, UK, was harassed in the morning by a fundraiser. It bothered her all day that he’d done this and when she went home that evening, she confronted him. She wrote, “He turned out to be a very nice guy who was very apologetic- he hadn’t realised how intimidating his behaviour was and was glad that I had gone back to speak to him. Being the older brother of 4 sisters he was keen to express his abhorrence of men that harass women. I was pleasantly surprised at his attitude- he was happy to listen and learn. It gave me hope!

Empowering Response #13: Each time Maria’s sister walked from the bus stop to her home in Colombia, a man across the street yelled sexual comments at her. His harassment upset her a lot. Maria was worried that since the man knew where she and her sister lived, it could be unsafe for her to talk to him, so she talked to her sister’s boyfriend and he said we would talk to him. The boyfriend asked the man to please show respect for the women walking on the streets and to consider their safety. His admonition worked and the man never harassed Maria’s sister again.

Empowering Response #14:  Christine was at a nightclub with a friend in Maynooth, Ireland, when a man groped her friend’s breast, then smiled as he walked away. Her friend froze in shock, but Christine “saw red.” She ran after him, matched his pace, and then reached around and grabbed his balls. She said, “He doubled over and I held on as I leaned in and spoke directly into his ear: ‘It’s not so nice when someone touches you without your permission, is it?’” She said she walked away and when she turned back, he looked very confused and uncomfortable.

Empowering Response #15: When D was street harassed by two different men in a short distance, she said, “No!” loudly to them each. A woman nearby saw both interactions and said, “Thank god for you!” and said something about how more people need to speak up against this. “I have to,” I said. “It [street harassment] is ridiculous.” D wrote, “I didn’t get a chance to thank her for supporting me in standing up against harassment. Usually when people see me standing up to harassers they either ignore it, think it’s funny, or tell me that I bring this stuff upon myself for taking harassment too seriously. So when I do encounter people who support standing up against street harassment, it feels great to know that there are people who think that this is a problem.”

Empowering Response #16: Fern was dressed up for an interview when two men on the street commented about her looks. She ignored them and one of them yelled, “What, you can say thank you?” She felt angry that a man expected her to thank him for his unsolicited and unwanted comments and asked him, “Why do I need to thank you? Did you do me a favor? Did you help me?” He was surprised and told her not to be uptight. She said, “I didn’t ask you to look at me. In fact, I wish you wouldn’t.” She then left.

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Egyptian Rapper Addresses Street Harassment

December 29, 2013 By HKearl

Myam Mahmoud, Via WaPo

Via The Washington Post:

“With the Middle East’s hit TV show “Arabs Got Talent” as her stage, 18-year-old Myam Mahmoud rapped about sexual harassment, second-class treatment of women, and societal expectations of how a young religious woman should behave…..

Part of the problem, in Mahmoud’s eyes, is that women don’t speak out against harassment.

“I wish we would not be silent about our problems,” she said. “We have to snatch our freedoms, nobody will just offer them.”

Her lyrics take the issue head on.

“Some of us see the answer is to cover up, and if the girl is hidden she will not be assaulted,” she raps in one song. “My body is only mine.”

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